Will you please tell me I?

Question

did nothing wrong?

Now I am a month from 19.

Last night, I ate later than everyone else, my mom and brother were outside it was 10pm. They were watering the lawn and playing with the dog.

I was sitting and eating and my friend called me asked me if i wanted to go out.

I went and asked my mom and she asked me where I was going and I said I didn't know and I was just making sure I could do something in the first place. She [assumed] I wasn't going to tell her but me and my friend both had gotten off the phone to go look up something to do. I was going to tell my mom as soon as I found something to do.

She got all angry and came inside and started yelling at me, for no reason.

She was complaining about how she was going to have to clean the kitchen by herself after I ate.

She went back outside for a few minutes so I started to put the left over food into some tupperware and I was rinsing off the dishes.

She came back inside and grabbed her purse and then came into the kitchen and started yelling at me, I was rinsing off the dishes while she was fussing at me.

She walks over to me and hit me in the head and shoved my head.

I squirted hand soap at her and she sloshed a glass of wine all over my face, in my hair and eyes and all over my shirt.

She had drank an entire bottle of wine by herself and then proceeded to leave with my brother after doing all this and threatened to call the cops on ME.

Is it just me or is she the messed up one?

Answer 1

Clearly there are some trust issues. This is YOUR version of what happened. Your mom would probably have an entirely different one. I can understand your explanation coz i've gone through it myself. Sometimes, it is just hard to explain stuff to parents and they believe that you are going to do something wrong just coz everyone else is! I would suggest that you try and talk to her when she calms down a little. She may have been upset about something too. So wait till things cool down a bit and then try and explain yourself to her. I'm not suggesting putting up with it forever, but try doing this before retaliating in a stronger manner and making things worse. Good luck! =)

Answer 2

You should have called the police and reported her for driving drunk with your brother in the car.

Answer 3

19? it may be time to move out, sounds like that isnt  a good safe place to be

Answer 4

don't blame yourself for your mothers drunken rage , if this continues, or has been a problem in the past ,your mom needs some help.I will not comment any farther,I'm hoping this was an isolated incident, If not, then you have to take steps to help your family and mostly your mom. best of luck,jack

Answer 5

I would of called the police on her to protect my brother.  From what you have stated it doesn't seem you did anything wrong.

Answer 6

Well, now that this is over, I would sit down with her talk to her about it. Ask her what was the deal last night and why she acted this way. Tell you how you felt by her reaction and advise her that you will not tolerate this anymore.

Be calm and mature about it. If she raises her voice, don't. When she lets you speak again, ask her why she's shouting and disrespecting you when you're just trying to understand. When the discussion is over, leave the room.

Of course, don't try that after she's had a few glasses of wine! :)  Good luck!

V.

Answer 7

this is called get ur *** out of her house....been there done it before...it took my mother treating my son like **** before it hit me in between the eyes....u should have called the cops on her....

Answer 8

i feel ya my mom is EXACTLY the same.ya dont have to do nothing and they start picking fights with u.when u try to let it go they keep pushing and pushing until u fight back!but no u did NOTHING wrong she was the one who was wrong.

Answer 9

If your mom is doing this bottle of wine job on a regular basis , it could be that she may need some help, try and have a discreet word with your teacher or your doctor, One bottle of wine can very easily lead to two bottles. I speak from experience.

Answer 10

You're 18 what your mother does to you know is considered Domestic Abuse becuase you are of age both of you could go to jail if the cops were called unless she was drunk and just beating you. Still you are an adult she should treat you like one hopefully she doesn't treat a child like that nonetheless.

The best I can tell you is find a place of your own if you don't want to put up with her.

Answer 11

Wow that sounds a lot like my mom too. Maybe your mom was drunk or maybe she is bi-polar. That is sooo abude. You do not deserve that. Maybe you can move out. I am sorry. That should not have happened to you. She never called the police because she knew that if she did, then SHE would be the one in trouble. You did nothing wrong.

Answer 12

She is the one who messed up not you first of all she hit you i the face and she was oviously drunk since she drank a whole bottle of wine. and threatening to call the po po?? thats crazy!

-V<3

Answer 13

I think it's time for you to move out. You mom sounds like she is an alcoholic and if she was drunk when she drove with your brother, she's the one that needed the cops called on her. Leave as soon as possible, let your brother know that if she starts abusing him that he should let you know that way, you can petition for custody. You know what she is like and most likely, the abuse will pass onto your brother once you leave. And, no you were not in the wrong, you are almost 19 and you still have to ask your mom permission to leave the house? That's not good. Get your own place, and you will be able to go out any time you want.