Will your elderly parent be coming to live with you when they are no longer able to take care of their self?

Question

Example- say they have dementia.

Answer 1

yhhhh defo well ima have such a big house they can live next door or ill buy them one :) too nice

Answer 2

Unfortunately, I have already lost my dad.  I have an older sister that is very close with my Mother as she has never had any children.  Mother has her own room at sisters house already and goes back and forth between there and her own house.  She is 78 and gets around and cares for herself wonderfully.  The answer would be no, she will be at my sisters.

Answer 3

... hummm...  I would if I was in a position too.

God knows they put up with enough of my c**p growing up-

I  personally feel I would owe it to them.  

I haven't always had the greatest of relationships with them but I love them and respect them TOO much to throw them into a home or something. But... honestly, it is MUCH harder then ppl realize. I took moved in and took care of my grandma for like 3 months when she was to that point... wow... I had NO idea what I was getting myself into. She was violent and completely out of touch with all reality...

So if it is something you are looking at.. make sure you have the resources you need to protect you and them from themselves.

Answer 4

Umm, to tell you the truth, it would really depend on how bad the situation is.

Now, there is no way in h**l I would put either one of my parents in a nursing home, but if their condition was serious, like if it was something that I could NOT do to make things better for them, then I wouldn't have a choice. Some times you just have to leave it to the professionals.

And god forbid if it were that serious, and I had no choice but to put them in to a nursing home, I would visit them VERY often.

God Bless

Answer 5

No; my dad died while still very active, and mom lives with my brother, thank goodness!

Answer 6

My mom will be going to a home, my step mom - a home... but I'll take care of my Daddy until I die... but I might get a live in nurse or someone to come and take care of him too...

This question made me sad...

xoxox

Answer 7

of course I'd take them both in.  but not my in-laws

Answer 8

Absolutely not.

That's what long term care insurance is for. My parents planned in order to avoid becoming a burden to their children. My grandmother never would have been able to stomach the idea of my dad changing her diapers, but that's what happened. As a result, my parents are fully covered.  

Answer 9

If they want/need to. Depends on financial situations. Looking into hospice or a home nurse so that they could stay in their home is always a good option.  

Answer 10

No, they died before they could get that old.

I miss them and would have gladly had them stay with me if they were still around.

Answer 11

For me it's a no.. but I do still feel guilty  

Answer 12

my mom is welcome any day of the week. but my dad, check his butt into a nursing home