Wipe the slate clean and start over?

Question

Is it possible to move to another country with no ID, no "official" history, no nothing but cash in my pocket and clothes on my back and start life over again?

I ask because there is nothing - absolutely nothing - in my life is worth saving now. I spent the last nine years raising an autistic son by myself, and he has died. My boyfriend disappeared two months ago. I never have gotten along with my parents. I'm in a job that I could walk away from and it wouldn't really matter. I realize I can't run away from myself, but I want to get away from the memories that are everywhere here.

I want to put my clothes in a backpack, clean out my bank account, leave my ID in my apartment, walk away and never look back. But is that really possible?

Answer 1

anything is possible, but do  you really want to do that..

if you are unhappy then make a plan on just leaving.  end the lease on your apartment, close your bank account and write a nice note to the people that will worry about you.. yes, you may have not gotten alone with your parents but do you really want to leave and not let them know at least you are alive. you do not have to tell them where you are going, just that you have not been kidnapped or are dead..

find a place you want to move to , get your money and pack up your car and go..  

the idea is nice to just leave with just the close on your back and  money in your pocket but what happen when you get there...?

Answer 2

Sounds fantastic.... do it. Doesn't sound like you have anything to hold you back. (but you will have to have the ID just to get into another country)

Go for it...and good luck.

Answer 3

Most countries won't let you do that.  But you know, you can have a fresh start in another city in another state.  Or even in the country.  Start a new life!  Start over!

Answer 4

yes you can.,.however that's a little expensive..just move to Another state ..you wont even have to change your name..

Answer 5

There is a point in depression that a cure by geography is necessary. Don't make it permanent... just make plans as the develop. Getting a different view on old problems is essential to those without social support where all the depression came from. I am sorry about your son but don't give up on both parents. Years later one  will feel the pressures of the ancestors to hold the family together. Reach out on paper or the Internet before spending too much money. An out of state marriage is easier than you think. Try to get the paper work organized before you start to travel. Be organized be careful but have some fun.

Answer 6

Move cross country and start a new life. Thats what Im doing after college. Living in jersey sucks, so Im moving to seattle.

Answer 7

You know, why go to another country?  It does sound like you need a fresh perspective, so get it. What is stopping you from getting a job across the country from where you live, packing up and leaving without leaving a forwarding address?  Nothing that I can think of.  

Find some place that you have always wanted to be, and go there.  

You DO need to get into some counseling in your new place, though.  You are going to have to deal with the losses in your life in a positive way, and allow yourself to grieve through them.  Changing your life is often a huge step in grief.  You can find a fresh start  - it's out there and you deserve it.

Good luck to you!

Answer 8

You can't run away from your problems, so part of that is dealing with your memories.

Answer 9

i am not sure if you can just leave the country that easy...but i do think you need to realize you may think leaving will help you have a new life and leave all your memories behind, but it doesn't work.

i have runaway....and all it did was make it even harder to deal with my problems cause i don't know anything or anyone in the new town.

i would say just change things in your current town and TRY!!! thats all you can do....move across town, get a job you LOVE, try to make new friends, join a book club or something like that. just do things you never thought you would. and just see where it gets you.