Without being asked, a waiter suggests a lower calorie entree to a seriously obese diner. Is this rude...?

Question

a public service, or just incredibly foolish?

Answer 1

Maybe if obese people get a few more of these "rude" comments, they'll start taking better care of themselves. I don't think it's any more rude than a bartender cutting off an obvious drunk. It's our tax dollars paying for these people's hospital bills when they have heart attacks at age 35 because they couldn't lay off the Ho-Ho's.

Answer 2

Extremely rude! It is none of the servers business what their customers eat.  

Answer 3

i think thats very very very rude.  

Answer 4

Oh my -- that is Terribly rude!  The poor diner must have been extremely humiliated.  

What if it had been the other way around?  What if the diner were very skinny, would that waiter have been applauded by suggesting a high calorie entree?  I seriously doubt it!

Answer 5

Very rude.  I waited tables in college and I would never do this.  Someone should have complained.  They are there to spend money and have a good time, not take dieting tips.  

Answer 6

Very rude.  

Answer 7

It's rude. As an overweight person, I am fully aware of how fat I am. I don't need someone to rub it in my face. I would be very offended. It's different if someone asks what's good, or what's good for you. To just offer it is rude.  

Answer 8

Sounds like a waiter who didn't want a tip from that table.  Stupid.

Answer 9

A good waiter will always suggest what is better.

And get a better tip when correct.

Answer 10

no that is not out of line. Fat people need to stop being fat. There is no excuse. Just like being knocked up when you don't wanna be. We've got the technology to avoid both easily.

Answer 11

Extremely rude.  I would have called him a smarta$$

Answer 12

Very rude, rude to the point I would talk to the mgr and never go back to that restaurant again. I would eat a huge meal, everything from soup to nuts, then stiff the guy.

Answer 13

RUDE! It is possible to slip in the low calorie entrees while also mentioning the specials on the menu. I'm not overweight, but I have had waiters say, "Our specials are here, our health conscious items are here..." and so on.

Answer 14

I think it was just foolish. Some places really push the low cal dishes and he probably made the mistake of assuming an obese diner would naturally want a low calorie dinner. I would have probably laughed (yes, I'm overweight) and told him I could go home and eat healthy. I want good rich, fattening food when I'm eating out. I can eat rabbit food at the house..........

Answer 15

I don't think that's very nice unless he makes that offer to every customer, and I think it's even more rude for other people to commend him for it.

Answer 16

Whats the problem with it.<

I see obese(fat)people make remarks about smokers all the time.

I hear obese people complaining about their weight all the time, but if someone else says it why is it wrong.

I see people that can't fix their own problems complaining about other people all the time.

People tell me don't smoke. But you can't tell them, Hey don't eat so much your killing yourself also.

Answer 17

It certainly seems familiar, but it could also be considered caring.

Answer 18

So if someone super skinny came in would this same waiter just walk away from the table because she/he assumes they dont want to eat anything...

What he did was rude. Its not his business to get personal with customers.