Wives Does it Bother You When You're Husband Leaves Without Saying Where He's Going?

Question

I was just wondering do the wives out there get bothered when their husband doesn't say where he's going when he leaves the house and does it bother you when he leaves and doesn't call to check in at home? Just wondering is this one of the many things that should be overlooked in a marriage. Your opinions are appreciated.

Answer 1

There is a poem about that. It is called : the man on a leash.

Answer 2

Yes it would bother me. My husband tells me where he is going and always picks up his phone when he is out there and also calls on his way home. He didn't do this before we got married and I told him how I felt  

Answer 3

I think it would depend on how much trust you have in your husband.  If there is full trust, you wouldn't be wondering or be bother at all when he goes out without telling you where he's going.

I don't trust my husband at all so it DOES bother me a whole a lot.  

Answer 4

yes you need to know where and how to contact him in emergencies.  

Answer 5

My husband better never leave without first telling me where he is going. I tell him where I'm going and he does the same.

Answer 6

it is rude- so fuq him- then whenever you leave show him the same gratitude that he has shown you. DO NOT TELL HIM NOTHING ANYMORE!!!!

Answer 7

Doesn't bother me anymore.  Divorced.  but yeah, used to bother me a lot.  Just seems like common courtesy to tell others in the household where you're going.  Doesn't he expect that of you?

Answer 8

yes, it would bother me. My husband is good at telling where he's going if he doesn't I ask or if he already left I call and ask. He does however not tell me where he's going when he goes out on a guys night out. He "never knows" where he's going until they get to where he's going but still doesn't call and tell me after I've asked him to. I think it may be an ego thing to call your wife in front of your "guys", whatever! must guys are just inconsiderate.

Talk to you husband again,

good luck

Answer 9

Absolutely! You aren't just strangers living under the same roof...you are supposed to be partners. Partners keep each other up-to-date about what's going on. It's really rude to just leave without any kind of goodbye or "going to the store" or SOMETHING. Sounds like this man doesn't understand the definition of commitment!

Answer 10

You mean you can really do that after you get married? I may try it again!

Answer 11

you mean to say you think 'respect' should be overlooked?  if my hsb was at home and suddenly disappeared...i'd be beside myself with worry!!!  

Answer 12

mine does this too and yes it bothers me! i turn around and hes gone ..we live on 15 acres so hes off on the 4 wheeler and im worrying about him..it really pees me off!

Answer 13

It would bother me!

My husband tells me where he is going when he leaves, not like a child or anything, just the casual I'm going to the store kinda thing. I always know where he is though, at least I hope I do, no I think I really do.

Answer 14

Yes it bothers me a lot but we are working on that very thing. He used to say he is an adult and doesn't have to report to anyone.  Well, as I said we are working on that.

Yes I agree it is just common courtesy and respect.

Answer 15

Yes it did. You didn't say how long you have been married, and it kind of feels like you are fairly newly wed.  I strongly recommend you and hubby sit down over coffee and pie and talk this out.  In my case my- now-ex started treating me like I was another mommy to him, and did whatever he felt like.  We have been divorced approximately 32 years because he refused to grow up and be a husband and father.  Some guys are like that, I hope yours isn't.

Answer 16

No it wouldn't bother me.  We do that to each other all the time.  He says "I'm going for a drive" and I say "I'm running some errands".  We don't keep tabs on locations, date, and time.  HOWEVER that's normal for us.  I can usually be found at the pet store playing with puppies & he can be found at the Corvette dealership test driving cars.  We do our own things.  If you have a lot of structure in your lives & then he just disappears one day or refuses to say where he's going then that's different.

Answer 17

It only bothers me if my plans are affected, or if he's out late and doesn't call.  I'll tell you, though -- the moment that shoe was on the other foot -- he hit the roof with anger !!  He's MUCH better about it now that he knows how it feels.  Leaving like that is just plain rude, but some people think its their right to come and go as they please.  Things change when you get married or move in with someone, though.  

Answer 18

Yes it would bother me, A LOT.  I'm not married yet but I'm engaged and he would never do that.  When hes gone he calls or will txt me every few hours just to let me know hes ok and thinking of me (even from work).  Never just overlook something that makes you uncomfortable.  That's like saying your feelings are not important.  Talk to him.

Answer 19

I gotta laugh hard at this one.

It's not intentional, men just don't think of these things.   We don't think like you women do, our minds can't really focus on 2-20 things at once like the female mind does.  We get an idea to do something, we go with it.

I used to do the same thing, my wife would get ticked off about it.  I finally told her that hey, i always have cell phone with me i never go anywhere without it.  If your worried call me, i promise i won't care.  I'll be more like, oh dang sorry, forgot to tell you.  Whole reason she said she didn't do that is because she didn't want to seem like a nagging wife.  I told her i wouldn't see it as nagging, i would just see it as keeping track of your absentminded husband.  Since that day, she just sends me a text or calls me.  It works out fine, she doesn't worry anymore.

As far as the friend asking, lot of guys do this, why would i need to call my wife? I don't need her permission.

Difference between married and dating, dating you are where he is going and what he is doing. :)