Woman co-worker issue?

Question

Ok...so there's this female co-worker of mine that is very well endowed. I'm certainly turned on by it. But lately it seems harder and to work with her because of it. I will go into her office and she'll be be wearing a top that shows off an ample amount of her generous curves. I want to be polite and have some dignity so I look her directly in the eyes only. But its terribly uncomfortable for me to be in her office as I'm trying so hard not to look. And I can't even concentrate on what she's saying since I'm so worried about avoiding looking at her. Now it's gotten to the point that I would prefer not to even have to work with her at all since she will have her goods on display and I'm so concerned with not being some typical pig and checking her out.

Part of the problem is that she's one of my bosses and I have to work with her daily and often for significant amounts of time. Don't get me wrong, I am attracted to her. It's just that I hate having to walk this tight rope

Answer 1

Send an email (this question you posted) to the CEO or human resources if it is a big enough company asking them to introduce a dress code that talks about revealing outfits. Some women are oblivious to it. They think  it is a human rights thing.

Answer 2

This is natural since men are very visual. Sounds like you've convinced yourself that you can't look at her body and now you're obsessed with doing just that. This is natural too. It's like if I said to you, "Don't think about chocolate cake." Now, what are you going to think about?.....chocolate cake of course.

The point is, try not to think about the fact that you have to control your eyes. The self-control will come more naturally once you stop dwelling on it.

Answer 3

Just be professional.

Answer 4

,sounds like when you enter her office the b***s increase by 50% forget her b***s boob look at her legs i had a boss that had man b***s i could hardy keep a straight face while talking to him so good luck

Answer 5

Really the problem is with you. Allowing yourself to get this worked up is, quite simply, self-indulgent. You are in a professional environment, and you are expected to act professionally. As long as she isn't coming in in a bikini top or something, then it is your responsibility to show a tiny bit of control over your overactive libido and behave appropriately. You are in a workplace. Time to act like an adult rather than a high school boy.

Answer 6

I would think if you saw the same b***s every day, you'd get used to them.

I suggest making an anonymous call to HR and telling them your boss is dressing slightly inappropriately.

Answer 7

Wow! She wants you to look at them. You're a man who likes women; it's only natural for you to look. I would tell her that she is making you uncomfortable and since she's your boss she should not only understand but if she knows whats goo for her she'll cover it up. Doesn't she have a boss? She could be border line sexually harrassing you.