Women, do you find yourself getting into codependent needy relationships with men?

Question

Do you ever find yourself with men who "need" you to be needy, so that they can feel needed and take care of you, and as a result you find yourself being more needy or believing that you really do need them?

Answer 1

I meet them occasionally and just sexually snack on them if they are attractive to me in that way.  But, when men like that realize that I am probably the least emotionally needy human being on the planet in romantic relationships, they move along in confusion for lack of response from me in regards to their emotional games or my failure to deviate from my own independent emotional contentment.  I always feel a huge sense of relief when they move along, like having house guests for too long and how good it feels to wave good-bye to them as they are driving down the driveway and getting to kick your shoes off and be "off-duty" once again.  I don't like being a man's "mommy", which is what those games are all about, a man requiring that a woman engage in need / attachment behaviors.  Eeeeeeew.  I like my men more grown-up than that and booking off in sturdy ways on their own emotionally.  I like running alongside them for awhile in admiration of their emotional sturdiness, see where they're going, what's in their mind, what their own independent vision is, learn stuff from them.  I like men who admire ME for not being needy and because I can take care of myself.  I mean, some men like to walk with Shih Tzus wearing a leash and a collar.  And, some men like to walk with timber wolves who chose on their own to keep company with the man.

Answer 2

needy women give you whatever you want so every one needs a needy women

Answer 3

Mostly men and women can take care of themselves now and that is why no one is marrying anymore. I don't try to fight against changes in society, so I've accepted that marriage and being faithful is becoming useless(although I stay faithful). The sooner people realize changes instead of fighting them, the better suited they will be to handle the changes.

So in these regards, I don't try to take care of women... they can take care of themselves. I'm a feminist regarding this specific issue. I only date strong women so that I don't have to concern myself with their issues.

Answer 4

Hope not, but if I was would I be the best judge if it?

I like to think me and my spouse can both stand separate, and therefore choose to stand together.

Answer 5

well there are certain levels....Everyone Needs to be Needed.  If your in a relationship, and they couldnt give a poof if your with them or not.  It's not going to last very long, simple as that.

Answer 6

Yes, that has happened to me.

Funny thing along the same line, is that the time in my life when more men asked me out was when I had a black-eye from a car wreck.  I got asked out by complete strangers, once and twice a day.  This is open to interpretation.  My friends thought it was because there was an excuse to talk to me.

I now do not get into those types of relationships, and I look for men who like me as a strong woman, and that encourages me to be strong, and not sickly and weak.

Answer 7

Pimps do that with their hoes, its an art i think.

Answer 8

Not really.

Answer 9

When we (male or female) are attracted to needy people, it is often because we have a hard time with intimacy. It's a way of letting the needy partner do all the work. And yes, sometimes we become attached to the needy person because we were needy to begin with and finally let out guards down.

As annoying as needy people can be, they do sometimes have a lot of love to give. But if that neediness comes with blame and guilt, it's not very healthy at all.