Women, do you want men to spoil you?

Question

More importantly, if you do, what makes you deserve it?

Answer 1

Spoil me, nah.  Shower me with love, gifts, and attention...sure!  Why would I deserve it?  Well, I think love is a two way street and showering and perhaps spoiling the other is part of the fun.  I love spoiling my husband from time to time.  I know what he likes and wants and I love the reaction of giving it to him.  And that opens up the 'deserving' part.  I think he deserves it because I love him.

Answer 2

No I hate being spoiled. to me being spoiled feels like I am being taken advantage of. It happened often when I was living with my step dad. He would do bad things to us and then try and spoil us as a way of saying I'm sorry.

Answer 3

Holy Macys & Sears Batwoman!  What's wrong with being treated nice?!@  I would think the normal emotionally healthy woman wouldn't mind.  

General order Directive #666 "women are not to be spoiled by men.  In no such cases is this allowed to happen.  Punishment is no shopping for a week."

Queen Hillary 3rd

Answer 4

Yes, I like to be spoiled sometimes. I also do the same for my fiancee to show I appreciate him. It works both ways.

Answer 5

NO.... I had an ex that once used to tell me "I just love spoiling you." It made me cringe. It made me feel like a little greedy  daddy's girl.  If I wanted to be spoiled, I could just ask my parents lol. I agree with Penelope, b/c my step-dad would try to spoil me after he got mad and it just seemed so fake.....Guys who spoil me will remind me of my step-dad.

It turned out that my ex only wanted to spoil me b/c he thought it was the best way to get into my pants (I found this out after I dumped him).  Wrong.  It just turned me off and made me feel awkward at why he wanted to spend so much money on me.

EDIT: Okay, I guess everyone has a different definition of being spoiled. When I think of "spoiling," I think of buying the person lots and lots of things..and treating them like a little baby...

I wouldn't mind getting a massage once in awhile or just being hugged if that's what "spoiling is."

Answer 6

h**l yeah, I love it.

I don't like being spoiled with money though, how about with just attention, jokes and interesting conversation.

What makes me deserve it? I don't know, they seem to think I do or else they wouldn't bother

Answer 7

I would spoil you Rio whether you want it or not hehe ;)

Answer 8

Well, I like it when my husband goes above and beyond the call of duty to be nice to me, like if he gets me some chocolate when I am craving it, but I am too lazy to go buy it.  He also keeps stashes of things like hair elastics in his office, because I'm always forgetting them.  (We work in the same place.)  I think that might count as "spoiling" precisely because I didn't deserve it; he doesn't owe it to me.  I'm a grown woman and if I want chocolate badly enough, I can go get some, and if I forget to bring a hair elastic, it's really my own fault.  So he gets extra points for helping me out anyway.

(And hey, sometimes I'll do things for him that he could have done too.  I guess it does work out.)

Answer 9

I got a nice massage from a male masseur today.  I think it's nice to be spoiled at times and to return the favor as well.

Answer 10

No I don't. I really don't.

Answer 11

I like it when men spoil me. In my experience, most  men seem to derive a great deal of pleasure from making me happy. (I like to spoil them too.)

I work hard and do my share, but I don't think you have to earn being spoiled a bit. I think everyone deserves it  just because they exist.

I'm not a princess either, but I like being treated like one. It's really very nice. I'm having a hard time understanding why you wouldn't want that.

Answer 12

Inside the DNA of American women, there is a "mooch" gene. It causes them to trade their sexuality for being spoiled by men.

Answer 13

No. There's a reason why it's called 'spoiling'.

Spoil:

"To do harm to the character, nature, or attitude of by oversolicitude, overindulgence, or excessive praise."

Answer 14

I love to be spoiled by my husband. What makes me deserve it, you ask? Being a loving, dutiful wife, providing s*x, raising children, cooking his favorite food!

Answer 15

I'll be honest: sure.

My reasoning:

Well I wasn't raised spoiled so if he wants to, then that's his prerogative. I won't object to it, I was never one of those prissy girls anyway.

Answer 16

I like them to spoil me with affection. things are nice too but I'm fine without them. As long as he shows me he cares. I'm not ok however with getting things and not getting affection.

Answer 17

I wouldn't say spoil me, but give me enough attention to let me know that you're interested in only me. I deserve it because I'm a good g/f and I try to make them happy so they should make me happy also.

Answer 18

No.  My parents tried that, and it didn't work.  I'm still a gracious and appreciative person.

My ex attempted to buy me a bunch of jewelry because he thought I "deserved it".  While I appreciated his thoughtfulness, it irritated me that he continued to buy these things after I'd told him that I don't like "bling".  I like small, tasteful jewelry when I wear it, which is rarely.  He decided that I had "cheap taste" and didn't think I deserved anything better.  He also told me it was partly for him to show off to other people.  If I wanted to be a jewelry model I'd be getting paid to do it.

Answer 19

i wouldn't mind getting a gift or two occasionally, or them paying my way for something some of the time.  but i dont want to be spoiled by them...

Answer 20

I dont like men spoiling me at all. It bugs me. Not sure why but it does

Answer 21

If they're giving more than I'm willing to give them in return, I feel guilty. So no, I don't want them to.

Answer 22

Does it count if it's mutual?  To give and receive is nice in a relationship.

Answer 23

h**l NO I'm a free girl/woman and I don't need no men to help me with anything!!!!

Answer 24

Rio...I am a beautiful, self confident and self reliant woman. I don't need to depend upon my husband to survive. But with him by my side, life is easier, more joyful, and complicated, which makes it more interesting. There is a big difference between surviving and living your life. And I am living my life. And my husband is the one who makes that difference. I don't really understand what you mean by the word 'spoil'. But from what I know, every once in a while my husband does treat me like a princess and showers me with love, care, affection, romance and attention so much so that I am totally saturated by happiness and joy by the end of the day. And the positive energy that he fills into myself on that day radiates from me to everyone I have to interact with in the consequent days. It refines me of my negative energy and makes be a better human being. It also keeps reminding me why I should love, trust, respect, and admire my husband like my god because he restored my faith in fairy tales. It's not a complicated idea. It's the same old simple give and take idea of a healthy personal relationship.

So in that sense, I want my man to spoil me. Not because I 'deserve' it. But because I 'need' it. It makes me a better human being rich in love, and it reminds me of my obligation to return the favor in the way he likes it the most.

Answer 25

What ?, you mean like leave you in the sun in a big Tupperware container ,until you're spoiled ?

Answer 26

i just like to mooch them dry, and move on.

Answer 27

My husband sends me flowers from Iraq, I consider that being spoiled. But then again I spoil him and keep the family a healthy running unit while hes gone.

I do appreciate the small gestures that make me feel spoiled and make him seem closer, not because I need things but because the thought he obviously puts behind it even while far away.

Answer 28

Not unless he's my haidresser!

Otherwise, no thanks.

Cheers :-)