Women, does this bother u at a friend's wedding?

Question

ur boyfriend keeps checkin out other girl(s)? Does it make u jealous at all? I know most men do this anyway, but even if u mention it to ur boyfriend that u don't like him lookin' at other girls, and he still does. What do u do, besides dumpin' him, cuz u luv him a lot?

Answer 1

If he respects you, he wouldn't do it so obviously. ESPECIALLY after you have told him you are bothered by it. I once dated a guy that did it and it drove me nuts. He would make it incredibly obvious, almost break his neck to watch the girls... and even tell me how hot she was!!! We didn't last long because I couldn't take it. My fiance isn't like that. If he sees a girl wearing something s**y instead of saying she looks hot he says 'baby that would look s**y on you'. If he does check out a girl he doesn't make it obvious. He may shoot her a quick glance but hey I do that if a really beautiful girl walks by too.

Answer 2

Both men and women notice attractive people. However, some men are much worse at it than others...and so are some women. I think it is disrespectful if a person does it blatantly. I dated a guy once who used to do it really badly. We discussed it and we broke up...not necessarily because of that, but because he just wasn't the right guy for me.

Answer 3

Does he only do this at weddings, or all of the time?

Answer 4

Its okay to look.But looky looky is just rude.Now if makes a comment about another woman about her b***s or butt than thats just rude.But if he's just looking,no big deal.Dont get jealous,he loves you.

Answer 5

Honesty, all men do it, it doesn't matter if the girl is drop dead gorgeous, or extremely ugly. Guys have this kind of sensory thing toward women, and will take a glance. As long as he's not making a pass at any of them, he's your man so obiviously your the one he wants.

Answer 6

My fiance looks at other girls.  Doesn't mean he's doing anything with them.  

I don't do anything about it and I know at some point there will be some hot guy walking down the street and I'll do to him what he does to me.

I also don't feel guilty saying that some rock star I like is hot.

Answer 7

To be honest... I think it is genetically hard wired in men to look. Just like women are genetically hard wired to hate it, and want there men to only look at them. They can't help it poor things.

But... There is a difference in glancing for no more than a second and full-on gaping and staring! If I see a girl walk in who is tan to the point of "oompa loompa", skinny, bib b***s ,d short short skirt my "alert" signals gone off but my man never stares! If he did ditch him. If he glances and looks away respectively he is a good man fighting his instincts. Give the guys a break. The good ones try.

Hope this brought new perspective.

Melisha

Answer 8

My hubby doesn't do that... that's one of the MANY reasons I married him

Answer 9

there is no reason to live with that no matter what you might look like...no woman should have to sit there humiliated as her bf/hubby ect oogles at other women at any occasion... an occassional glance isn't "ok" but when asked there should be corrective action...do not put up with this...would he be ok if you were giggling and flirting with the guys at the bar and batting your eye lashes with him sitting next to you???? don't be ok with this!

Answer 10

my bf does this quite often. n let me tell u - I absolutely hate that. what i did was, I set down with him and talked to him seriously about it, y it bothers and hurts me, and told him to stop it. told him I took great effort to look good for him, yet he does not appreciate me and insults me by openly showing his appreciation of other gals' beauty rather than mine (he NEVER praises me, but I got praised by other people all the time). he got the message. he never looked explicitly again. its true he'll always look but at least he has to give me the respect i deserve.

u can try telling him 'this guy X is so sensitive to his gf' or 'what a sweet bf guy Y is' (but do not quote any of your ex). he'll understand exactly how u feel.

Answer 11

Get used to it.  Or dump him.  Sorry, but I can't see shutting off his brain and how that would work.

Answer 12

Ya, it bothers me too.  I know it sounds funny, but when he does that I put my arm around his shoulders, or give him a hug or a kiss.  That way, I'm able to get his attention back to me.

Answer 13

whenever my fiance acts interested in another girl, whether it's checking her out or holding a long, indepth conversation with anyone in a skirt, i start to feel insecure and jealous. i think it's because i'm overweight and hate my body.

Answer 14

Look at the other girls he is looking at, and then start talking to them or about them, like say * what about her do you like? I personally think this and this about her* Us women look at guys all the time, and girls for that matter, oh she shouldn't be wearing that, and she needs her hair re-colored and so on...now if he is staring at b***s and butts, and seriously lingering, that's a problem. but shoot, if a girl is wearing a really tight skirt, or pants, I'm gonna check to see if she has a pantie line, cuz those pants are way to tight and she is just asking for attention, and the wrong kind at that! lol the guys do the same, only their assessments are a bit different. If you know your relationship is secure, then you shouldn't be getting jealous, unless he is checking them out and then hitting on them...just be reasonable, if my hubby stares a bit too long i tease him and he gets embarrassed, but you cant kill a fella when a hot girl walks by and he looks, most likely you would look if a really hot guy walked by. No worries!! I hope this helps you feel better about it!