Women, how would you deal with a man in this situation?

Question

I don't act stereotypically of my race...and my race of men HAAATE that, especially bc I am considered attractive to most.

Anyways, I conduct myself professionally. After a while, they get frustrated, and use "controlling" techniques to try an frustrate me: I will be in conversation with others, the said men will stand there staring at me. I will turn to them and say, "what?" and they will laugh and say, "nothing" and walk away.

Or I will talk with others, and they will give me a look like, "what's up with her" and then laugh later as if pretending the whole time.

I know they aren't bc I've received this tx my whole life, it's just diff bc they find me attractive now and know I wouldn't go for them.

How do I know they find me attractive? They initially make sexual comments, etc then realize not going to budge.

How can I get them to stay away COMPLETELY since they are being passive aggressive?

Answer 1

I tell this to all of my female friends who just want to have a nice time out and not be hit on by the guys.

You need to practice doing a deep male voice for this to really work well. When the potential would be suiter comes up to you say to him.

Hey I used to be a man. I look pretty darn good now don't I!!!

They should turn and run away as most men are homophobic.

Answer 2

Ignorem. They sound like clowns. I'm guessing the reason you aren't acting stereotypically is because you are attempting to have a conversation of substance with people rather than getting talked to like a hooch. When they come up with something intelligent to say, you can start acting like they exist again.

Answer 3

This is way too carried away.

See, if it was "one man" harrassing you, then THAT is harrassment.  

But what you're saying is that everyone thinks you're weird.  That a whole bunch of people look at you.  That is not harrassment, it's normal life.  It just means that you need to stop worrying about what others think of you.  Who cares, seriously!

Answer 4

Holy schmolly!!! this is SCARY. I actually agree with S`A`N`D`

and it's NOT a full moon either, DANG!

Answer 5

sounds like you are hanging out in the wrong places with the wrong crowd.  You know....birds of a feather.

Who gives a hoot what these losers think of you or how they act if you arent close to them ?  Sounds like manufactured college drama

Answer 6

sounds like even though you conduct yourself professionally, there is something about you that makes men like that think it is okay to make remarks such that they do.  usually, if a male thinks a female is totally out of their league, they don't bother much with her for fear of rejection.

i think you have more control over this situation then you realize. good luck. you know acting professional is a step in the right direction, give it some more practice though, hopefully you'll begin to be treated like the woman you know you are.

Answer 7

Get yourself into a convent.