Women, if you got bored with your husbands, what would you do?

Question

There's been a few polls lately regarding the number of women who claim to be unsatisfied in their marriage and with their husbands.

If this were you, what would you do? Would you leave him? Or would you 'stay' but have an affair?

Answer 1

they would sit on their fat asses harping over the same b*s* without doing anything to improve their situation, externalize all of their problems, and get failed advice from a box of ho-hos and the other Desperate Ho-wives

Answer 2

I learned the hard way...she dumped me....Now I'm more exciting   LOL

Answer 3

Neither, if my only complaint was boredom, I would be thankful!  Many people have husbands who lie, cheat, do drugs, etc.  If I were bored I would go to counseling with my husband to see if we could bring some chemistry into our relationship.  If we tried that, and I felt that I just didn't love him anymore and that staying with him would make me miserable, then I would file for divorce.

Answer 4

That really depends. For example, if my husband doesn't satisfy in bed, but he is a wonderful person in all other situations, i think I wouldn't have an affair or leave him, s*x is just overrated. But if he didn't satisfy as a person, if I didn't enjoy spending time with him, I would definitely leave him!

Answer 5

If I was the wife, i'd do what Freddy's mom did on Freddy Got Fingered. Sleep with as many basketball players as possible. Or just have fun with your husbands money. Let him work while you do whatever women do and make sammiches!

Answer 6

Marriage is a serious commitment. If you are bored or unsatisfied but love them then you should find out HY you are. And we shouldn't rely on another person to entertain us and make us happy. If you are bored, then make your own life interesting. No I would never have an affair. If I fell out of love, then splitting up may happen but you should work oin a marriage.

Answer 7

Marriage isn't a one way show. why don't you try to be the clown.

Answer 8

So what if you're bored? You shouldn't disregard all the love you have for your husband because he isn't entertaining you lately. I would NEVER have an affair. Instead, I would speak with my husband about my concerns. If we're a good couple, we would find a solution instead of throwing our hard work to the dogs.

Answer 9

EDIT: Not meaning 'you' personally, clvr1001, meaning the all encompassing 'you', general people!

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Personally, I think if we expect all our excitement in life to come from another person, we will always be disappointed.

If a person feels their marriage is 'unsatisfactory' then (unless there is a question of abuse) a good place to start looking is at oneself.

Exciting people don't just happen! Get out and DO something, or stay home and DO something! In other words ~ get a life of one's own and stop waiting for life to come to you.

Chances are when hubby or partner sees how exciting you are, s/he'll want to join the party :-)

Cheers :-)

Answer 10

I would never get bored with my husband, because I truly love him. But hypothetically I would get us to a marriage counselor if I started feeling that way.

Answer 11

Deal with it. I don't believe in extramarital affairs. They just make things worse.  

Remind yourself of what attracted you to your man in the first place, I say.

Also, keep a life of your own.  Too many people enter marriage as a way of not having to be alone...and they expect that one person to be EVERYTHING they need...and no one can do that, nor should they.   It's a big mistake to allow marriage to define who you are as a person.  It's always a good idea to have your own separate interests as well as common interests, too...and to spend time with other PLATONIC friends, too.  That way, when you and hubby do talk to each other and spend time together,  you both have something interesting to bring to the table.  

Yes, it's good to spend time together, even plan a date from time to time, but too much "togetherness" where you do nothing but stare at each other is not a good thing, either...like they say familiarity breeds contempt.

EDIT

Oh really, I thought you aske what would you do in the case of boredom? My answer was deal with it...and have a life of your own.

Now if you mean sexual boredom.... get a toy :) lol

Answer 12

I would not have an affair.  That is completely dishonest and LOW.  I would wait and see if we were just having a rough spot, which all married couples go through.  If things did not get better, I would get a divorce.

Answer 13

I have been bored so I told him, so we worked on it.

Marriage takes work.  If I was miserable enough I wouldn't have an affair, I would leave.

Cheers&Peace

Answer 14

I would do what I hope he would do if he felt the same way. I'd talk to him about the rut we were in and get help professionally, if necessary.

Answer 15

Dig into myself; for my reason to be bored with him; would be reflected off of how I truly feel about myself.  Got to bear a bit of pain from time to time.

Answer 16

Divorce is always a possibility, and there's a possibility He got bored with me too.

Answer 17

Well many people would say they would leave..but it's easier said than done..I would like to think that if I was in that situation that I'd have the balls to leave.

..I wouldn't have an affair though, I wouldn't be able to do that to "my husband", or well at least I think I wouldn't.

It's very hard to truely answer these questions unless you've been in the situation yourself.

Answer 18

ask how he felt about an open relationship? counselling?

we've been through stages when we've lost interest ... but we always find it again soon enough :-)

Answer 19

i'd make him to something interesting.  get kidnapped or something.  

but seriously, i'd just take a vacation by myself or with the girls or something.

Answer 20

well I am unsatisfied in my marriage right now, but I am talking about the way we are.  Sexually I have no reason to stray besides just wanting to be with someone who I can get along with.  My husband has anger issues so what can I say.  Anyway, I am just dealing with it and trying to resolve things within our marriage.  I will not cheat.  I would definitely leave if it gets any worse then I can tolerate...or if our counseling proves to be a waste of time.  But like I said I will not stay with him and have an affair that is not fair to anyone.  Me, my husband or whoever the "lover" would be.

Answer 21

I would spice it up, baby. I love the man I got, and I want to be white-haired with him. I plan on making it last any way I can.

Answer 22

unsatisfied in what way? like there are times that he doesnt want to do what i want to do so i do it..i wouldnt cheat!  why would you cheat like get a back bone and work on your marriage or get out...some people put more effort into the negitive then trying to work things out( in thier head )  If you ae looking for your husband to help you get a life then it will never happen....find a life of serenity with or without...you know what you can live with and what you cant....when i started to do things and didnt worry about what he was doing who la he wanted to do things with me he missed me...as i did things with him i didnt really like to do like hockey i hate hockey but i would watch ask questions and learn..because he is my life and what he is interested in is part of him as well as back at me...people need to work on thier marriage and not stray or run as soon as its not perfect...20 years i have been married and i have been through a lot but he has as well...if you dont love him leave!!!

Answer 23

Well, I would probably spend more time with my friends - but not to go out and see if I could get a guy. I would entertain myself with other things and maybe see if there was anything that interested us both, that we could share together.

Answer 24

I'd go down the the Hubby-Mart and trade him in for a newer, more exiting model.  

JOKING!!!  I'd try to discuss things with him.  If things are really bad, I may suggest couples' therapy or something.  But I wouldn't give up before trying everything I could think of.  No matter what, I wouldn't have an affair.  I'd divorce him first.

Answer 25

I tell him.  Then we talk about what I need, and what he needs from me in order to change.  Then I give him time to make those changes.  If he reverts back, I will leave on a mini vacation, and let him miss me.  This worked, as when I came back he had redecorated 3 rooms in the house so that I would like them, and he was so excited to see me!  =)

I think it's very important to miss your partner sometimes.  It's a good healer.

Answer 26

I would do neither one.  I would focus on the care and upbringing of my daughter and of bettering myself as a person.  I would also more than likely seek counseling or a way to make my marriage better.  I do not see divoce as an option unless there is abuse or an affair happening, and I do not see an affair as an option, either.

Answer 27

No I would never have an affair.

Answer 28

Neither.  I would stay, and find things we could do together; develop common interests; seek counseling.

Answer 29

divorce or emotional infidelity

edit: whoever gave me thumbs down are clearly adhering to their own outdated version of what makes a life valuable. You only live once; if you marry for love and both of you grow in separate directions, there is nothing condemnable about asserting your own happiness and breaking away.

jeez, people.

Answer 30

I'll bet you they are bored with life in general and therefor just need to start developing their own interest as well. I wouldn't leave or have an affair, I would address it and work on it though.

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