Women, what do you think a fair?

Question

Prenup would be? If the guy makes a lot more money say 10 times more than the woman & there are no kids involved nor will there be & she is working too. If you think a prenup is wrong would you still feel that way if you were the one with the money? We are not kids, we are middle aged and shes not broke & has young adult offspring. I have 2 adult kids too & want to leave something for them when I am gone.

Answer 1

I would take the fact that she's "not exactly on board" as a red flag.  The question is are you going to let her bully you into not having a prenup?  In fact if you are both middle aged, why even get married?  

You are the one in the position of power here, a middle aged guy with money will have a MUCH easier time finding someone else than a middle aged woman, so you could find 10 more just like her without any problem, in fact I'm surprised you haven't traded up for a newer model.

But the fact that you are asking this question leads me to believe that when she threatens to call it off, that you will fold.  Just give her half your stuff now and cut out the middle man.

Answer 2

if you both agree on it, then it shouldn't be an issue

Answer 3

I believe in prenup! I am getting married in 8 weeks. and if i had anything worth anything I believe i would do it to. Not only for yourself but, for your kids. I believe that if a marriage fails you should leave with what you came..

Answer 4

From another woman's' point of view...I can understand her not being completely on board. We girls think much differently than you guys do. She is probably thinking "I really want to marry this guy and live happily ever after, and he is already thinking of leaving me"!( it's a girl thing you know.).so she is wondering where she really stands with you...come on, think about it...you would think that too if she had suggested the prenup. There is nothing wrong with a prenup if it is reasonable for both of you. Maybe you make more money than she does, but she will certainly contribute to the marriage and home as much as you will. Nothing like making you new wife to be doubting you before you ever get married. Once that is in a womans head it is hard to forget it. Make the prenup fair or your marriage is already doomed. At least give her a home when you take the money and run out on her. (She is already thinking you're gonna do that.) You get what you give in a marriage, just be good to her and love her and she will love you back. Then there will be no worries anyway...Good Luck! I do admire you for asking for other opinions anyway, so you are probably a good guy. Just be more careful with your girls' heart, it is very tender.

As far as leaving something for the kids, that is done in your will.... I don't think we are talking about dying here. If your adult children are like mine in this day and age, they probably make more than you do already. If not...give them something now instead of when you are dead and gone. You will enjoy that much more than when you are dead, and so will they! And your wife will still think you are quite a guy!

Answer 5

It's smart to at least talk about money and plan goals.  You may not need an actual prenup but all couples should have a prenup talk.

Answer 6

I think the prenup is a good idea.  My kids' father just died without a will and now it's a mess.  Get a prenup and a will to protect your kids, especially if you live in a community property state.