Women - Do you have a hard time separating love and s*x?

Question

Speak only for yourself.

Answer 1

Well said 'im here'

s*x is physical, people feel the need to act it out to release tension or just to have fun, i think its only humans, apes and dolphins that have s*x for pleasure. (There is also the primative side to just carry on our genetic code, its embedded in our brains from the moment we are born)

Whereas love takes time, its not an amimal flight or fight reaction, its something thats developed as our brains have gotten bigger and more complex.

To fall in love requires a lot from two people, to push aside any fears, anything in the past that mite complicate things. Yes, i admit that s*x with love is probably better, but love is love, s*x can be a quick sh4g.

Answer 2

Since I have been married for me it is one and the same. s*x is a way that I express my love for my husband. In the past I have had s*x just for the gratification. It wasn't a hard concept for me to do at all. I still think that if I were ever to become single again, I could have one "friend with benefits" without falling in love with him.

Answer 3

I can and I don't.  If I just want s*x... there are machines that do far superior jobs to some strange guy on the street.

Answer 4

No, for me they aren't seperate I got a husband who I love, and it's 8:00 on a firday night and I'm just going to leave my computer go up and have some great nookie :-D

Answer 5

It is my expression of love.

Answer 6

Women usually do but men can easily separate it.  Husbands let their wives think they can't separate it so they don't have to deal with the insecurity when he's around an attractive woman.

Answer 7

Why would I want to put myself at risk for someone who I could get pregnant from or an STD.

With those things in mind, I felt it was best to only do it for love and not a quick s*x thing.

I think it works out better, s*x with someone you love is WAY better than s*x with a stranger.

Answer 8

I think one of the great tragedies of humanity is that people try to separate them and that many people say that to separate them is a good thing.

Yes I have trouble separating them; because I don't want to settle for sub standard s*x.

Answer 9

No, I actually am a virgin, and I am very much in love and happy without s*x- and one of my love languages is physical touch. It depends on whether your married or not. I believe that s*x is a form of love after you are married. Before marriage, s*x is caused by those hormones that we men and women cannot keep under control. Many people have a hard time deciphering between s*x and love. Don't get me wrong, those sexual desires and such are great, but love needs a foundation. You guys might disagree with me saying that you can have both, and I agree, but only when the both of you are one through holy matrimony.

Answer 10

I did when I was younger.  I equated s*x with love.  After a few years and some disillusioning lessons, I learned that women are capable of separating out the two, and can consider s*x to be a purely physical enjoyment...if they let themselves...

Answer 11

Not really. I like having both, but one is enough.

Answer 12

love is love. s*x is s*x. s*x is not love, and love is not s*x.

love is when u care about someone. s*x is when u want someone. hope i helped! =D

Answer 13

Yes I do. And I don't think that's a bad thing. s*x is better with someone you love.

I could separate them if I wanted to, but I don't think you should.

Answer 14

I did when I was younger.  I still have a hard time taking the emotional equation out of s*x.  Luckily I dont have to anymore since I am in a loving monogamous relationship.  But if that were to end I know I still would have a hard time.

Answer 15

Nope. s*x with an emotional component is best, but that doesn't mean that animalistic s*x with a great looking man with whom I share nothing but friendly feelings and attraction can't be great.

In fact, I distinctly remember one weekend in New Orleans from my single days that still gives me the tingles when I think about it.

Answer 16

no

Answer 17

I'm into Quantum Cosmology sort of stuff, that everything everywhere is just fizzling energy waves or tangled energy waves, and when it comes to s*x, it's like 1) masturbation, 2) s*x without love and then 3) s*x with love are ascensions in complexity of harmonic energy constructions.  Nature propels itself from simple constructions of energy into increasingly more complex constructions of energy.  So, a tender seedling (masturbation) is beautiful unto itself.  Over here in my garden I find a red rose bud (s*x), and that too is beautiful unto itself.  And, THEN, I find a rose fully blossomed in a zenith of beauty (s*x with love), and I am astonished by the beauty.  I don't exactly separate s*x and love.  It's all a lovely growing garden with this and that . . . and over THERE is where I put the coleus.  : )

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Answer 18

Just the naive ones.

Answer 19

Nope-it's pretty obvious to me when I love someone and when I don't-that usually means that if I don't love them-I'm not going to have s*x with them as well.

Answer 20

Yes, I guess I do because I'm of the belief that love and s*x shouldn't be separate.

To each his own, I guess.

edit:

Well said, Julie M.

Answer 21

my husband and i BOTH (and i know i'm disobeying your little rule, but, meh) feel s*x is an expression of love. neither of us were ever the "one night stand" types.

Answer 22

Not really. I'll be honest, I had s*x with my honey before I loved him, and I didn't actually fall in love with him until we'd been dating (and having s*x) for quite awhile. I suppose that makes me a bad person in some people's eyes, but whatever.

Answer 23

I think its hilarious some people on here think that if you have s*x with someone you love, you are not succeptable to pregnancy or STDS.....

I know that I often feel an emotional attachment to people I have s*x with, but if I try hard enough I can make it go away (situations where I know no relationship can come of it).

Answer 24

Speaking for myself...not a problem at all.  s*x is a physical act, love is an emotion...big difference.

Answer 25

No one is an act one is a feeling.