Women: Nice Gesture, or Inappropriate behaviour?

Question

I found out this morning that a REALLY good friend of mine is in hospital! She broke her arm on monday, had surgery yesterday and is getting discharged tomorrow possibly. I'm sure she's probably feeling rotten, and I was thinking of sending her a get well gift when she's back home, like some flowers or something. Would that be inappropriate behaviour?

Answer 1

Nice, shows you care:)

Answer 2

It shows you care. I'm sure she would appreciate it. Go for it

Answer 3

She would probably find it really nice. I advise you do it, will make her happy.

Answer 4

Just do it.  As long as it isn't an engagement ring you should be fine. :)

Answer 5

From the male perspective, based on pleasing women... Absolutely yes, brilliant behaviour in fact.

"Even older ladies think I am great...the ones old enough to be me mum!"

Answer 6

That's a wonderfully thoughtful gesture, not inappropriate at all.  

Answer 7

Not at all. Even better if you could visit her at the hospital.  

Answer 8

No it is the right thing to do  

Answer 9

That's a perfect gesture, really nice! She's lucky to have a good friend in you. You can get those Me To You bears with get well messages, flowers or chocolates and sweets would nice also x x x

Answer 10

no of course not, it would be a lovely gesture to show that you are thinking of her!

Answer 11

That'd be really nice of you, go for it. I'm sure she'll really appreciate it.

Answer 12

Who ever told you it would be inappropriate?  It would be a lovely gesture only a cold-hearted fool wouldn't appreciate.

Answer 13

You've obviously not grasped the concept of inappropriate behaviour have you.........no it is not, that would be nice.

Answer 14

colourful flowers and a card should do thats a lovely gesture go 4 it

Answer 15

That's really sweet of you, I'm sure that will cheer her up

Answer 16

That would be very nice ,but u know what would be even nicer if u went to see her and give her the gift yourself.

Answer 17

No quite the opposite! it's a very good and nice behaviour! it shows that you care about her and that you are nice with her! It's great

Answer 18

That would be fine. Just in case there is a boyfriend pop a card in saying your sorry to hear about her accident and hope she gets better quickly.

Answer 19

I really don´t know why you think it could be taken as inappropriate behaviour. That is what good friends do!

Answer 20

Absolutely appropriate!!!  People appreciate when others show that they are thinking of them. You sound like a great friend.

Answer 21

Just a card would be good. Just to say thinking of you and hope you are feeling better soon.

Answer 22

Go for it.  Who would find that inappropriate...unless of course she (or you) has a very protective boyfriend and in that case it's best to err on the side of caution.

Answer 23

inappropriate behaviour? Definitely not! Doing what you intend to shows your friend how compassionate and kind you are! Go ahead dude, you seem to be a very sweet guy, and she would surely appreciate if not deeply touched by your act! Giving gifts would not make your friendship less platonic, i assure you.

Answer 24

Well that's lovely.

Don't get chrysanthemums carnations including pinks though, because they don't make good presents.

Get lovely flowers from a florist and get fragrant flowers.

Answer 25

Sounds like a nice gesture.  If she's home from surgery, consider getting her some magazines, books, sudoku, crossword puzzles, etc.  It sucks to be bed-ridden.  Also, if she lives alone, offer to go grocery shopping for her -- it is dreadful to run out of toilet paper and toothpaste when you are stuck at home.

Answer 26

That's a wonderful idea! Even better, you should take flowers to her. I bet she's going to be bored and would love to have some company. Just don't get her red roses unless you are in love with her or something. Just go to the store and get her a pretty mix of flowers. Some colorful ones might cheer her up. You sound like such a nice person! :)

Answer 27

it'll only seem inappropriate if she takes it the wrong way, which is unlikely if the gift is labeled 'get well soon'. I think it's sweet, you should do ti :D

Answer 28

Its a great gesture and I am sure she would appreciate to know that someone was thinking about her.

If you live near her maybe you and a couple of her other friends could get together and take some pre-made freezer food.

With a broken arm its hard to cook -lol

Answer 29

Why are questioning yourself on a pleasant gesture.  Go do it with confidence.  Stop looking over your shoulder and trust yourself.

Answer 30

No not at all! That's actually really sweet. It's crossing a fine line between friendship, and wanting to be more than that, so make sure you can show that it IS just a friendly gesture.

Answer 31

Depending on how much of a 'good friend' she is to you, then a card might just be enough if she has a boyfriend/husband/girlfriend.  They might read something into it if you went out and bought a lot of stuff.  If on the otherhand she is not seeing anyone get whatever you like, the card, flowers, a gift...