Women and body language/physical contact

Question

My mate's close female friend (both in their 30s) visited the other day while he was still in bed. She was evidently a bit upset about something and started to cry; just as I entered with coffee for them she knelt down and lay her head on his bare chest, which he nuzzled and stroked as he comforted her. I asked him later if they were really just 'friends' and he said yes - he'd be up for more but thought she wouldn't. Personally I think he's wrong, and if a woman does that it suggest they're pretty 'fond' of the guy.

What do you think?

Answer 1

Maybe they're really just best friends and the girl is close enough with him and feel comfortable to be with him when she is sad.

Answer 2

I'd say its a good indicator.  Most women need to be pretty comfortable with a guy to put her head on his bare chest and let his nuzzle her.  Usually that kind of contact speaks of a higher level of affection.  If she felt nothing for him, its unlikely that she would want to touch or be touched like that.

But, like another poster said, it also depends on how upset she was and if she had anyone else to go to.  If she had no one else, and depending on how upset she was, she just might have been craving that kind of touch.

A better way to gauge, while she's not upset, is to watch her body language while they're watching a movie at the house alone.  If she leans into him more, or cuddles on the couch, that's more of an indicator of her feelings.

Answer 3

It's a good sign, but it's not definite - she might just have been upset  :-)

Answer 4

why do you need to stick your nose into everything,,,is your own life so boring?

Answer 5

It's impossible to translate this occurrence into text to stream to people over the internet. You can't find the truth to that by asking us... we weren't there. We'd have to actually see it, and even that isn't nearly as "right" of a reading as being the actual person. It's impossible to assume anything based on the written description of an event.

Edit: I personally have comforted many of my friends, and the stigma that comes with assumed gender relationships has never been a factor to how I comfort them. I'll hold a girlfriend when she's crying, I'll hold a boyfriend when he's crying.

Answer 6

Well, in my own experience, if you've established a straight forward friendship with a man, you would do anything to keep it that way. And romantic involvement would be a definite complication. Even if there is some attraction between them, his friendship will always be more important to her. Romantic relationships are not always of the most stable kind, but friendships are there for ever. I personally would not risk my friendship in hope for something as insubstantial as a fling.

Answer 7

She was in pain and needed to be comforted.  You might be right.  

Answer 8

Unfortunately, once a man becomes a woman's friend, he is likely to stay that way. I always ask an attractive woman out right away rather than allowing myself to be forced into the dreaded 'platonic zone' where so many women like to keep men who are actually attracted to them.  If a girl rejects me, that's fine. I would rather be rejected than to have her treat me like one of her girlfriends.  

Answer 9

Are you serious? Of course there is something there if a chic is putting her head on a dude's chest.

Answer 10

What you're thinking sounds right.  But, what's her story?... That's what I like to know... it can be complicated, who knows.