Women daters, have men become feminized?

Question

I am 29 and engaged now. A problem I had while dating was I found men were to me acting like women. They want women to agressively pursue them and fall all over them. They need constant attention and compliments and are devastated by any slight form of criticism. They are completely okay with having a owman pay for everything and some even expect it.

Not to mention the guys who do nothing (no job, school) and sit at home acting like children. In their 20's and 30's.

I am horrified by some of these men. since when did men start acting like little boys and little girls?

I am since met a MAN and am happy.

I blame the lack of fathers raising their kids, single mothers babying their sons and a lack of discipline and good role models.

Do any other women feel the same way and have had similar experiences?

Answer 1

Maybe those guys might have been closet g**s.

A really girly man I dated turned out to be a closet homosexual who was dating me to look straight.

This guy got mad at me for just teasing him about his hair...uh, and he acted like one of those hopeless romantic girly girls in the movies.

Answer 2

It all happened when men treated women like slaves.  Then women rose to fight for their rights.  Women became strong financially, emotionally, and mentally in their pursuit of happiness.  No longer were women subject to rape by her own husband, no longer held in an abusive marriage against her will; no longer did she have to wait in line next to her children as she held her hand out for allowance; no longer was she considered irresponsible and answered to her husband or father; no longer was she considered "waiting for trouble" merely because she walked to the store alone without a male to escort her.  

Then the new woman emerged and was able to make her own decisions and men learn to accept that.  She had a family once she found her equal and her sons saw an independent working woman.  The sons grew into needy boys because she gave 25% to them(statistically, boys grow up with emotional setbacks when mothers work, while girls grow up emotionally strong), 25% to her daughters and 50 % to her job.  Then a new male was formed.  He turned out to require the emotional needs of his mother through his girlfriends and later his wife.  These men don't have a medium.  Their fathers were overly overbearing: rough, but good household providers.  Their sons grew up feeling less appreciated, and require lots of encouragement.

Answer 3

The way you describe their behavior as being like feminist is way off base as women do not always behave that way.  I do understand what you are trying to say but that is just being irresponsible men.  And yes, there seem to be more around nowadays....but then today's society is less responsible as a whole than it used to be.

Answer 4

well this is ya problem in usa....more openly in the social aspects things which is wrong...A man is a man, a woman is a woman....deal with it!!

Answer 5

If you want women who actually like men, try Marriage or Weddings.  You'll get answers from feminists here.

Answer 6

My observation is exacly the same. I am not a dater. Im an old married broad for over 1/2 of my life     but I agree completely with your observation but I did not have the ballz to say it..

Answer 7

Yes, this is true, I have observed it second hand many times. There is a strong decline in the quantity and quality of fathers/male role models for boys today, feminization is the inevitable result.

Add on top of this that the overall decline in men is being hastened by artificial estrogen in the environment and the degredation of the Y chormosome itself, leading many geneticists to conclude that all male humans will eventually be extinct. It won't be anytime soon but in the future unless drastic action is taken there will only be female humans on earth.

Answer 8

That's how many of these women like their mouses, I mean men.

Answer 9

It's not that they are becoming more and more feminine. They are realizing that they do not have to hide their feelings, thought's and emotions. This is something you should realize seeing as how it is the 21st century. This has nothing to do with their father's not being there. It's all about the push to equality that we are all trying to achieve.

Answer 10

I don't see that behavior as feminine.

It just means they are losers. Losers come in both genders.

Answer 11

Yes I've seen this in men.  My boyfriend now is very sensitive,  he loves for me to compliment him and hates when I tell him things he needs to improve.  However since we've been together he's got a job a car an apartment and now has ambitions in life.  Maybe I give him the motivation he needs.

Answer 12

I'm sure as h**l am not like that. I think the problem is not men, but women have become more difficult when it comes to dating, everything is a turn off or turn on. Guys are having a hard time trying to read and interpret women, but women, being the emotional and unpredictable creatures they are, make it nearly impossible for a guy to act like himself and just get a decent date.

Women seem to have become almost too demanding these days. You don't like guys who act too macho and who you feel doesn't give you any space, or you don't like guys who gives you plenty of space but it's still a turn off because he doesn't act masculine. Wtf?

Answer 13

it sometimes seems that way.

Answer 14

You can blame feminism and dead beat dads for that.

Answer 15

I would anwser yes, to a degree can someone explain metrosexual.

Answer 16

Amen sister! i blame the lack of fathers also, its almost like when we get into a relationship with a man who was raised without his father it is our job to raise him again into a man.. or all h**l will break loose.

Women be careful when dating someone who's father wasn't around, because i had to do just that (raise him all over again) and support him and love him until he finally grew up. it was sooooooooo not easy, but in the end i am happy and he is too and we will be happy together forever, but if (god forbid) something were to happen and i had to date all over i wouldn't date a fatherless man for this reason alone.

Answer 17

I'd love to meet men like that, where did you find them?

Answer 18

Sounds more like you just like to date losers.

Answer 19

Weak Women attract weak Men.

Answer 20

It is so wierd because I had the exact same thought about a week ago. The lack of maculine men is more profound now then any other time in my life!

Answer 21

maybe because women have been so Bessy cutting down men for being men that those you speak of are just trying to fit in with out being labeled a GD male pig. and now those poor SOBs will be real confused when they find that even this gets them worse label's. there is no winning and there is no compromise and there is no way for men to please you so guys just be your self and if they can not handle that then F them.

Answer 22

That's what happens when society encourages women to leave their men and take the children.  And then we combine that with taking away the rights of fathers by default, no not openly, but effectively.

Fatherless boys are more likely to end up in prison and less likely to behave like a man.