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Women do you get offended when someone calls you submissive?

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Submissive is the change of heart a woman has toward her husband. It is a willingness to see to it that her husband is happy. She will do almost anything for him and follows his lead as the head of the household unless it causes her to sin.

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  1. No one has EVER called me that, but yes, I probably would be offended- simply because it isn't true.


  2. Yeah because it implies that there is someone who controls or dominates me.

  3. i would have to know what submissive means first

  4. I do not get offended, but I do find myself wanting to explain to women the full detail of Ephesians (usually quoted by women as being sexist since that is where the "submissive" part is mentioned in the Bible).  What most women who are anti-submission and/or anti-Christianity don't realize is that if you read on in Ephesians, men are commanded to love their wives and families as Christ loved the Church.   In case anyone missed that part, Christ GAVE HIS LIFE for the Church.  We women definitely get the better end of the deal.

  5. no that isn't that bad

  6. You had me until "She will do almost anything for him and follows his lead as the head of the household unless it causes her to sin."  And then I was done.

    This relationship works for some and really, really doesn't for others.  That's the point where it would break down for me.  The level of offense I would take would depend on how well the person who said the comment knew me and how much they know about my life.  

    If it's a comment from a random person than I'm not going to waste the time, energy or emotions to become offended.  However, if it was a close friend or family member than I would become very offended because they know better.

  7. Ive been called that by my sister in law for years, simply because she refuses to believe me and my husband can actually agree on most things. I don't get offended I find it sad for her.

  8. It depends on the other person's understanding or definition of submissive

  9. Why would the truth offend me?

    Now being called a doormat THAT offends me!

    But if someone called me submissive, I'd just say yep.

  10. No, it's the truth! It's both my sexual identification and one of my main personality traits. I call myself submissive, and I say it proudly. :)

  11. Nope.  I see it more as a compliment than anything else.  BUT- I know that I have a brain in my head, and that I use it.  Nobody can take that away.

  12. WOW... is this the 1950's again?



    I ABSOLUTELY would be offended!

    Ask yourself this: would he do the same for you?

    No. Why would you allow someone to be 'over' you?

    I understand wanting to help the one you love by making his/her life better, easier, more fun, ..... etc., but by giving up your own desires completely to submit to his/hers is not healthy.

    Dominance and submission do not need to play a role in any relationship- what happened to the EQUALITY that we have been fighting for?  Compromise is a useful tool... don't submit yourself to anyone, you are worth more than that.

  13. I would have been, before I found out what it means to wives who consider themselves to be submissive wives.

    When I first started answering and posting questions on GWS, I was very defensive and put my guards up upon hearing that word. "Ain't no man gon' be tellin' me wut to do all da time. I ain't gotta listen to no man be in my bizznazz"...ok, perhaps I didn't speak in Ebonics, but you get the idea. :)

    No, I wouldn't be offended. I know for a fact that your hubby doesn't walk all over you. After all the posts I've seen you write, I know you're respected and loved. I can't see why you should be attacked for wanting to dote upon the love of your life. Although I personally feel as though I have the attention span of a gnat and would go crazy being home all day and submitting to my boyfriends' needs, I've come to realize that my lifestyle is not the desired lifestyle for all women and it doesn't suit the needs of all couples.

    My boyfriend and I fight so much because I'm always disagreeing, so sometimes I wonder if having more "submissive" qualities at times would strengthen our relationship. As I learn more and more about how happy many women can be in what they consider to be submissive relationships, it makes me wonder if there really is a universal answer to relationships. I don't think there is to be honest.

    Anyway, one day, I hope that your relationship choices won't be criticized with harsh judgement, as you are content in your situation and it is working out wonderfully for you. I would hope that the same outcome can happen for those who call themselves "feminists" or "anti-feminists"...however, I wish nothing good for the misogynists of the world. They deserve no happiness at all...lol

  14. i think i would be. my soon to be sister in-law called me old fashioned and i took insult to that

    however i have no problem trying to make my fiance life earier and happier to a point any ways --- if he asked for a 3 some the answer would be no with a huge argument to follow---- but if he asked and said please and thank you for a glass of water and i wasnt bussy with something already id have no problem to get it and i know he would do the same

    i wouldnt call my fiance the leader of the house hold either i think we both stand on the same grounds and do whatever possible to keep food on the table a ceiling over our heads and creeps away from our door

    we dont see everything eye to eye and neither of us find a problem in talking about our points of view if a argument came from it i guess depending on what it was over id other say it dosnt mean that much to me or he would do the same of course not like that but we pick and choose our arguments

  15. No because I'm not submissive. I'm a strong lady who taes NO c**p!

  16. You bet I would; that's the last thing that I would ever want any one to refer to me as. I'm afraid you have no idea as to what it means. My SIL; just her not her daughters, and or her sister are like this, is submissive; so much so that she literally runs circles around you. Just like me she agrees that he's the leader of the home.  However, she agrees with everything and I mean EVERYTHING that her husband says. He could say salt is sweet and sugar is salty and she'd agree with it; even though she knows it's bogus.  She literally goes out of her way to please and appease him, so much so that she's lost herself in the process; in other words; she's become his shadow. The thing is he wants her to speak her mind; she refuses, that's how submissive she is. Even Saad; he's my husband, her brother, says she ought to speak her mind. He thinks she's being ridiculous.

  17. why would anyone get affended by that?

  18. I don't like submissive.. I prefer cooperative.

  19. Nobody ever calls me submissive, but if they did, I would be offended. I can be affectionate and caring without subjugating my own desires.

  20. I don't mind because I am submissive, but only to my man :)
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