Women in Chronic pain is your husband in denial and make your life miserable because of it?

Question

I suffer from RSDS ( REFLEX SYMPATHETIC DYSTROPHY SYNDROME) severe burning pain in right arm with many other symptoms and it is very disabling. My husband pretends that there is nothing wrong with me and expects me to do task that are impossible for me to do because my strength in that arm is very limited and using it hurts like h**l. How should I deal with that?

Answer 1

i have ms so i know where your coming from, everyone around me expects me to do EVERYTHING and when i cant they throw a fit the only thing you can actually see is how hard it is for me to walk. other than that  i don't look sick so they don't think i am sick. i have so many issues with all parts of my body, even issues with communication. they all ignore it. my best friend got mad at me because i wouldn't go to the pool with her, i tried to explain why i couldn't( because my leg hurts too bad to use the ladder to get out of the pool) but she already knows that. i just ignore it till i get really livid then tell them all to f**k themselves. they will most likely never understand because they cant relate. punch them really hard and see if that helps lol kidding. if you cant do something and they aren't hearing you just ignore them. you need to take care of yourself first and foremost .  

Answer 2

Tell him to talk to your doctor if he thinks there is nothing wrong with you and then maybe after he finds out otherwise he will change his lousy attitude towards you.

Answer 3

What exactly is he expecting you to do?  The dishes?  Or moving furniture?  

Answer 4

is he violent..?  If not then dont do the things that you can not.  tell him why and if he can not handle it.. leave.  

your in pain and he is not helping, do you really want to be around someone like that. ?

Answer 5

Set limits and boundaries in your life... apparently, in the past you have done what your husband requested even though you didn't want to or couldn't.

Don't do things you can not do comfortably.

If your husband wants something done, remember he's an adult and is capable of doing things himself.   I don't think there is anything wrong with helping our spouse or others from time to time, but constantly?  no.

Take care of you.