Women only: I need your help.?

Question

No bashing please, I really need help.

I spoil my wife and do everything I can for her but she doesn't appreciate it. And lately we hardly have s*x. I do not want to cheat on her but I'm getting to the point that I really need some affection. Any suggestions for my predicament?

P.S. I am a 25 year old man and I don't need lectured.

Answer 1

Honestly you may do every thing for her such as stuff but when it comes to s*x are you giving affection and attention with out just wanting s*x? There some times is a part of the emotional that is a little neglected. Such as a hug in the morning, a kiss here and there go out and have fun with each other all with out the intention of wanting s*x.

Answer 2

To me spoiling ur wife is where u went right n the beginning.  Don't get me wrong it's nice to shower the one u love every now and then, but when u do it all the time it becomes a routine n a way, which can make it meaning less to her because she knows she can get it. And about that s*x thing seems to me that she mayb gettin it somewhere else!! I think that u and ur wife need to sit down and have a little talk and c how it goes from there.  GOOD LUCK!!    

Answer 3

You should tell her exactly what is bothering you. Sometimes I act a certain way with my husband without realizing how it is affecting him until he brings it to my attention. This happened the other day (we had a talk) and once I saw how I was making him feel, I began to act differently and things have been much better.

As many people say, communication is key to a healthy relationship. Talk to her and hopefully she will listen and begin to appreciate you more.

Answer 4

cheating is never the answer.

thats horrible.

maybe u should try to talk to her ab it

Answer 5

Try to take her out to a nice dinner. If she still acts weird then she might be having an affair. Or she might be pregnant.

Answer 6

find a f**k buddy

Answer 7

Romance.  

Treat her like it's your first date - take her out, order a bottle of wine, tell her how beautiful she is.  Start the night by calling her and tell her that you're taking her out and she should dress up.  Make it a surprise where you're going.

Or do whatever your definition is of 'romance'.

The problem, I find, in long term relationships... is that people begin expecting things from their partner.  Even you say she takes you for granted.  Don't take your intimacy for granted either - s*x is probably not just a physical act for her - it's about love, feeling s**y, etc.

Don't expect it, work for it, and you'll be SHOCKED at the results.

Answer 8

I'm thoroughly offended by the answer saying to get some from another girl...totally unethical...Anyway, I can understand where you're coming from, but if you really want to get to the bottom of things, talk to your wife.

My husband and I hadn't been having s*x very often, but when I brought it up, we understood where the problem was and fixed it last night!

I would explain what you're feeling in a nonthreatening way, and see how she feels about it.  Communication is the only way to solve this.  Don't hold it in.  Otherwise, you'll drive yourself crazy.  

Good luck.

Answer 9

You just need to talk to her openly and tell her how exactly u feel. maybe there is something that u not doing that she wants u to do. Only way you'll know is if you talk to her.

Answer 10

Talk to her about it.  

Answer 11

well have a talk to her and never cheat on her as you will make things worst.

Lol so go talk to her.Sit,clear your mind,concentrade and dont ruin the moment by your anger.

Answer 12

Try talking to her.  I know that I can often forget to give my husband some affection due to work, the kids and all of the house stuff.  I don't mean to, but it happens.  Try getting a babysitter if you have kids, and taking her out for a nice dinner and a walk around downtown or something like that.  Just try to rekindle the romance.

Answer 13

This may sound like an obvious answer, but have you tried to sit down and have a heart-to-heart talk?

Maybe you have gotten into a habit, and need to do something out of the ordinary to find the passion in your life again. Take a trip, spend a night in a hotel and order room service, plan a special evening...

In what way doesn't she appreciate it? What is it that you do when you say you do everything for her?

Answer 14

No lecture here, but if you're looking for an excuse, permission or approval for cheating on your wife, you might as well give me a thumbs down now and move on to the next response.

1. If your wife doesn't appreciate what you do, then do something that she will appreciate.  (Read Dr. Gary Chapman's book, "The Five Love Langages."  Google it and at least take the online quiz.)

2. What is the reason that you two aren't having s*x?  Discuss this, get the root of the problem and resolve it before you totally destroy your marriage.

ADDITIONAL INFO:

If she "blows off" the discussion about it, then I have two more suggestions.

1. Change your approach.

2. Have another woman explain to her the strong, physical needs of a man and the fact that, as a wife, she bears some responsibility in meeting those needs.

Answer 15

get some from some other chick but not if ur married or have kids  

Answer 16

if you dont need a lecture then dont ask the question.

but all you have to do is ask her whats up...not that hard.