Women should reciprocate and ask that man on a second date and pay to show mutual respect.Does this make sense

Question

If a man shows respect to a girl he is interested in by paying for the first three dates( or just more than one date). Want is the women role to show respect back to the man? Is it to say thank you after the date, sleep with the man(hope not), say u had a great time, keeping that night open to chill with him ? It certainly isnt "I wana take u to____since we had a good time"...., it's more "where are taking me next time: with most not all women today? My point is that why do women(not all) feel men should earn there respect and one good way to do this is by paying for the first couple dates. Yes men are to pay for first date(mostly because women dont feel comfortable asking) but after that if the first date was good and he paid the women should reciprocate and ask that man on a second date and pay to show mutual respect. Does this make sense ?

Answer 1

trust me, if im paying for a date, even if its just the bus fare, im getting some action or she can reimburse me.

Answer 2

All's fair in love and war. You can't make rules for that kind of thing; it's just silly. If you don't want to pay, say, "Let's go Dutch!" Make sure she knows what you want to happen beforehand so she's not left footing the bill.

Answer 3

This should be between you and your date and your preferences.

Answer 4

The biggest respect of all would be if the woman loves you!!! The guys likes to do nice things for the woman that loves him back.  Don't think men  have to do anything because men have a mind of there own. Certain woman are not deserving of it because they think it's something that your suppose to do and the effort isn't cared about and taken for granted and on top of that she doesn't care about you. It would be nice for the guy to pay for everything but not because  woman said to do it but only men coming up with the ideal only. That I could follow. Just to note that men don't have to do anything at all.

Answer 5

Men don't respect what they don't chase. If we lived in a better world I would agree (I'm a feminist). But the reality is men like the chase and just observing with my own partner if at any point in the chase I had started snatching the reigns I don't know. I didn't, and we've been together (and about to jump the broom) for five years. I have no problem paying for him or whatever just as he has no problem paying for me. He also isn't under the supposition that paying for me entitles him to some "rights", which is where your flawed logic leads when you start whining about "mutual respect".

Y'all created the patriachy, don't cry to me when you have to pay for everything.

Answer 6

i frequently "buy" when dating...

but i have never done a load of laundry for a boyfriend or made a meal or cleaned the kitchen and had him respond "that was wonderful... my treat next time".  go figure.

Answer 7

Feminists have taught American women to demand respect, but not give it.

Answer 8

Ha ha ha ha....what a great point Mystery Meat!  That's hysterical.  I actually found a man who did that! Came over before I got home from work....got my son to let him in and together they made me dinner and tidied up the house!!!!!  Needless to say we're still together 11+ years later...like I'm letting him go!

Answer 9

I think it's a mans job to pay for the dates. It's part of chivalry. Women shouldn't really pay for the dates, like when people say it's the man's job to look after the family.. Something like that.. =$