Women we know that we are better than men at communicating, and we often do more talking, yes?

Question

Then why do some of my friends often clam up when there is a problem in their relationships, and just hoping that by dropping little hints he will somehow get it?

We know this don’t work and leads to problems

Inspired by Andrews question on gender honesty

Answer 1

As a man let me tell you women

we men do not get hints. we struggle on with NO IDEA AT ALL what the F***s going on, or what the F*** to do about it. You need to sit us down (with the TV and radio off) look us straight in the eye and tell us whats going on. Then to be quite sure you have to make us tell you back whats going on. Don't just say 'do you understand?' Cause we'll say yes just to stop you talking about relationships.

If you do anything less then its your fault for not telling us... '...no you didnt, you never said..'

Answer 2

I have no idea whats up with your friends. Not all women like to chit chat though. Sometimes you just don't want to talk about it.

Answer 3

Well, you definitely do more talking!!!!

Answer 4

i think men talk and communicate a lot more then women give them credit for

Answer 5

Comes down to one or a mix of three things ..

Just plain old insecure about talking about it, for whatever reason.

Or failing to see things in terms of an us working things and and seeing if he's, sensitive enough, caring enough, loving enough to notice and 'just know' whats wrong from some misguided romantic notion about how to tell if you found the one.

Or maybe just to cause sufficient problems to end the relationship.

Experience and maturity and character may play apart also.

Answer 6

Most of us men are hopeless at reading other peoples body language

And it dosent help when a some women sigh and we ask them whats wrong and they say NOTHING and then they get mad at us for not being able to mind read her

If a guy is mad at us he will let us know by using a few harsh words or with a punch

Answer 7

Yes, women tend to not know when to shut up...star

Answer 8

I don't clam up to cause problems or be contrary.  I just don't like to feel like I am burdening anyone with my problems.  If it's a major issue, I'll bring it up, but if it's something petty I don't.

Answer 9

This science of life friendship between sexes always Tatiana problems of a friendship without benefit of debate about wedding and interests.

Answer 10

As men we don't do hints, and I certainly don't care what's on a woman’s mind if she don’t care to say what it is, that’s her problem, her right. I won’t guess

If you are an adult and you have a pain, a problem then you need to say so, that’s communication. Right?

When a women that i'm involved with is prepared to tell me that the reason that she “acted so nastily two weeks ago is because she was going through something or the other and I did not notice, so its really my fault” that usually signal the end of our relationship, it is thoroughly dishonest, and disgusting behaviour

I just dump ‘em and move on, this kind of practised dishonesty don’t cut it

the question is why did you not discuss it at the time, but are prepared to use it now to score points

Answer 11

Because the women's magazines tell them that men are suppose to be able to read their minds. Guess what? it does not work.