Women which Cheating scenario would you find worse?

Question

A) Your Husband/BF is having a non-sexual affair with a woman. He admits that he truly loves her, and her him. Fantasises about being with her and sometimes(not always) thinks of leaving you for her. He also buys her gifts and spends time with her whenever possible. Absolutely NO s*x has taken place only hand holding.

B) He has met a woman that he is attracted to physically, but in no other ways likes and has had s*x with her, but would not be hurt if he never got to see her again.

Answer 1

i think A.

Though they would both hurt.

but that one means he loves her and doesnt love you.

butt i'd get a divorce on either.

Answer 2

This is like asking...Whats worse drowning or burning to death? Either way your dead.

Answer 3

i've been in situation A before and it felt like he had really cheated on me (physically) even though he hadn't. I NEVER wish that feeling on even my worst enemy. Haven't been in situation B yet but I doubt it would make me feel much better. Sorry, there just isn't a simple a or b answer for me.

Answer 4

A is obviously more threatening. s*x is just s*x but real feelings are a problem.

Answer 5

Both would mean He doesn't love me enough.

Answer 6

A. its not about the s*x its about the betrayal!!!

Answer 7

s*x is momentary and men can get over that pretty fast(and so can some women), but giving your emotions is way worse. The fact that he says he loves her means that he was looking for something more than you were giving him. I don't think men expect a lot from women, so if it gone to this point it means you've REALLY dropped the ball in your relationship.

Answer 8

most women that really love a man would say A because it breaks the trust and bond she thought they had.  

but of the choices B is the only real deal breaker.  I could lie my way out of A.  A is like like the deal with your new girl hating your communication with your ex in any form or fashion.  B proves you will take the goodies if available elsewhere.

Answer 9

A

Answer 10

Hi!

Yeah!

A - deffo.

If it was A - he'd be straight out the door!!!

As far as women are concerned - for a man to give himself emotionally to another woman is far worse than giving himself physically.

Are you in this predicament?

Answer 11

A. would be much worse, funny, I thought of asking something like this myself.

Answer 12

That's tough.

I'd have to say A, because that means he is leaving or wants me to.

Answer 13

Both would be grounds for divorce as far as I'm concerned. Either way I would never trust him again.

Answer 14

(A) would be MUCH worse. But both would hurt like h**l and probably end the relationship.

Answer 15

A sin is a sin is a sin. B has already gone all the way and A is headed in that direction...one with feelings and the without. I think they are both bad.

Answer 16

The "forsaking all others" in the wedding vows means both types of scenarios, emotional and physical.

Answer 17

To be honest A

Because men are more primal so they tend to go with their sexual desires before thinking twice, whereas in

A they have fallen in love with someone else but not even told you or finished it with you.

Answer 18

A, because he actually LOVES the person he's cheating with. On B he doesn't even care if he doesn't see her again, as long as she doesn't get pregnant from him I don't think it's as bad as the other one.

Answer 19

"A"... but that dosent make "B" any more acceptible.. "A" just hurts a bunch more because its  personal

Answer 20

A is definitely worse, but I think B is probably the most common.

Answer 21

Either way he would be breaking a deal breaker.  His outta here.  Cheating is cheating! In scenario A she can have him.  In scenario b he can miss me forever or until his next one.  Luckily my man wouldn't do that; he thinks cheating is horrible.

Answer 22

A would be bad in that it would indicate that our relationship was pretty much over.

B would be bad in that it would probably being some STDs home to me, and possibly result in an unwanted pregnancy.

Either way, I think I'd end the relationship out of self-defense. I really can not decide which is worse.

Answer 23

Option B means he is disloyal because he doesn't love her. Option A sucks too but it is not his fault, he is just in love with someone else. In A at least he was honest with you. Things just didn't work out. B, he is just a jerk

Answer 24

A definately.... s*x is just s*x, its wrong to cheat, but theres no feelings and u could possibly overcome it... but treu feelings.. thats like having ur heart ripped out, torn apart and stopmed on in ur face...

i hope ur not being cheated on...

Answer 25

B is worse.

At least in situation A, I could accept that he has simply fallen in love with someone. Of course that would hurt a lot, but I could see that he is only human, and cannot control his emotions for someone else. I have lost out, but not really through "choice".

In situation B, he just doesn't respect me. He'd rather have one night with someone than to have me. He thinks s*x with her is a risk worth taking. It's worth losing me for. I've become worthless.

There's a choice on his part to go ahead with it. It's a more consious betrayal.... I think...

Answer 26

Honestly, none of them would hurt me... they would make me angry, and I'd definately divorce him...

Answer 27

Dirty loittle w***e!

Answer 28

Both. But i suppose if I had to chose, I would go with A.  I don't need to be sloppy seconds to anyone and if he truly loves her, and is happy, than so be it.

Answer 29

either way he would be out on his ear but I could cope with B better.

Answer 30

They are equally bad... I'd leave him in both situations because I couldn't trust him to be honest any more. Although, I accept that he couldn't help falling in love in A, whereas B was a deliberate act, but he should've been open about his feelings before he started spending time with her and buying her presents. That's still cheating, even if no s*x was involved.

Answer 31

"A" is worse, but we are women and WE can take it....who wants a jelly man like that hand holding creep anyway...

He thinks HE is Romeo....wait till the other lady Finally gets him.......she will be in the same shoes one day...

Guy like that, will ALWAYS be like that....

I have seen them do that and then when they get Cancer or have a heart attack, who do they go running BACK TO??