Women who act old school or women who are pressured????

Question

A website once asked this to all the boys which asked this:

Men which women would you rather date?

A.) A old school women (girl) who wants to wait till they get married to have s*x or:

B.) A girl that is easily pressured into having s*x with you

What really surprised me is 90% of all the boys that answeredchoose B. and only 10% choose A.

So I am asking you what do you think???

Women are welcome to answer as to why???

Answer 1

A and B are both opposite extremes of each other.

Answer 2

How old were these boys? Were they boys or men? Because if we are talking 18 and under, then all you got is a bunch of virile horn-swagglers.

Answer 3

I think that shows men like s*x an don't like waiting for it. nuff said

Answer 4

The big thing here is that it is "boys" who were asked the question, so I can assume they are in their mid to late teens.  This would explain why 90% of them chose B.  At that age they aren't looking to the long term, they want to get their pleasure now, and fast!  If men in their mid twenties and up were asked this question, my guess is that 90% would choose A, or at least I hope so.

Answer 5

The choices are too limited, out of sync with reality.  Why should any boy (or man for that matter) have to choose between a Puritan and a flooze?

Answer 6

"In recent years there has been a proliferation of curricula used in abstinence-only-until-marriage programs. Many of these curricula are designed to control young people’s sexual behavior by instilling fear, shame, and guilt. They are often rooted in specific religious beliefs and portray premarital sexual activity as immoral and universally harmful.

RELY ON NEGATIVE MESSAGES

Use fear to keep teens from engaging in sexual activity

“Teenagers who are sexually active in high school will find that their schoolwork suffers.”

Reasonable Reasons to Wait (Student Workbook, p. 41)

Question: “What are the risks of being sexually active?”

Answer: “Teen pregnancy, sexually transmitted diseases, low self-esteem, loss of reputation, feelings of being used.”

Choosing the Best PATH (Teacher’s Guide, p. 6)

“Illustrate how repeated sexual encounters make it difficult to begin and maintain lasting relationships because the ability to bond emotionally is destroyed.”

Choosing the Best PATH (Teacher’s Guide, p. 6)

“These are simply natural consequences. For example, if you eat spoiled food, you will get sick. If you jump from a tall building, you will be hurt or killed. If you spend more money than you make, your enslavement to debt affects you and those whom you love. If you have s*x outside of marriage, there are consequences for you, your partner and society.”

s*x Respect (Student Workbook, p. 11)

“How do you think you would feel watching someone you love get AIDS and die?”

Heritage Keepers (Student Manual, p. 97)

This focus on consequences is clearly designed to scare students rather than educate them. There is no scientific evidence to support the assertion that premarital sexual intercourse leads to everything from a loss of reputation to an inability to bond emotionally.

Instill shame to motivate behavior

QUESTION: “Why could a sexually active teen tend to have lower self-esteem?”

POSSIBLE ANSWER: “May feel dehumanized or worthless, weak or powerless if partner is selfish or controlling.”

Choosing the Best LIFE (Teacher’s Guide, p. 8)

“Why is it hard to have self-respect if you’re sexually active, especially if the relationship ends?”

Reasonable Reasons to Wait (Student Workbook, p. 103)

“Each time a sexually active person gives that most personal part of himself or herself away, that person can lose a sense of personal value and worth. It all comes down to self-respect.”

Choosing the Best PATH (Teacher’s Guide, p. 7)

“Many young teens who have been brought up with principles and values may have already decided they want to save s*x for marriage.”

s*x Respect (Student Workbook, p. 36)

“Why is it likely that weak people would choose risky behaviors, like drugs, alcohol, s*x outside of marriage, or violence?”

Heritage Keepers (Student Manual, p. 98)

The emotional consequence of premarital s*x: “You know people talk about you behind your back because you’ve had s*x with so many people. It so empty too (sic). Finally you get sick of it all and attempt suicide.”

FACTS (Middle School, Teacher’s Edition, Appendix, p. 98)

“Even if you’ve been sexually active, it’s never too late to say no. You can’t go back, but you can go forward. You might feel guilty or untrustworthy, but you can start over again.”

Game Plan (Student Workbook, p. 45)

Forty-seven percent of all high school students have had sexual intercourse.1 It is inappropriate and potentially harmful for education programs to imply that these teens lack values and self-respect. It is equally wrong for programs to tell parents, teachers, or teens that sexually active students are less worthy of love, trust, and respect.

DISTORT INFORMATION

Contain inaccurate and biased information about STDs

“AIDS can be transmitted by skin-to-skin contact.”

Reasonable Reasons to Wait (Teacher’s Guide, Unit 5, p. 19)

{In truth: HIV, the virus that causes AIDS, can be transmitted only through direct exchange of bodily fluids such as blood, s***n, vaginal secretions, or breast milk.2}

“That means the virus [HIV] may be in your body a long time (from a few months to as long as 10 years or more) before it can be detected, either by a test or by physical symptoms.”

s*x Respect, (Student Workbook, p. 60)

{In truth, according to the CDC hotline in most instances HIV is detectable by a test within a few weeks of infection. It cannot live undetectable in your body for 10 years.3}

“Cervical cancer is positively correlated with promiscuous behavior ….”

Reasonable Reasons to Wait (Student Workbook, p. 119)

“One psychiatrist has said, ‘The number of herpes patients has decreased since 1982. However, the herpes patients I see in 1991 suffer intense guilt feelings, and feelings that they are unclean and dirty. Herpes patients fear the most that they will not find a partner or someone who wants them.’”

Reasonable Reasons to Wait (Student Workbook, p. 134)

This information on STDs seems to be based more on judgment than scientific fact. Fear-based abstinence-only-until-marriage curricula would better serve students by explaining the true nature of STDs as well as ways in which young people can protect themselves and access testing and treatment services when needed.

Discourage the use of condoms

“Common sense indicated that the condom is inadequate and that abstinence prior to marriage and faithfulness within marriage are the best means of STD prevention.”

Reasonable Reasons to Wait (Teacher’s Guide, Unit 5, p. 10)

QUESTION: “Emotional effects of premarital s*x that condoms can NEVER protect.”

ANSWER: “What is guilt; rejection; or a broken heart.”

Reasonable Reasons to Wait (Teacher’s Guide, Unit 5, p. 32)

INSTRUCTION: “Circle the item(s) that can be totally eliminated through the use of a condom?”

“Infertility, isolation, jealousy, poverty, heartbreak, substance abuse, AIDS, pregnancy, cervical cancer, genital herpes, unstable long-term commitments, depression, embarrassment, meaningless wedding, sexual violence, personal disappointment, suicide, feelings of being used, loss of honesty, loneliness, loss of personal goals, distrust of others, pelvic inflammatory disease, loss of reputation, fear of pregnancy, disappointed parents, loss of self-esteem, leaving high school before graduation”

ANSWER: NONE.

INSTRUCTION: “Cross out the item(s) that can be eliminated by being abstinent until marriage.”

ANSWER: ALL.

Choosing the Best PATH (Teacher’s Guide, p. 19)

When used consistently and correctly, condoms are 98 percent effective in preventing pregnancy and research has shown that using a condom for HIV prevention is 10,000 times safer than not using a condom.4 Telling students that condoms don’t work will not stop them from having sexual intercourse. It may, however, stop them from using condoms when they do become sexually active. In addition, condoms were never intended to prevent everything from poverty to personal disappointment. The focus on these unrelated issues is clearly designed to discourage condom use rather than inform students.

PROMOTE STEREOTYPES AND BIASES

Present gender stereotypes as fact

“Girls need to be aware they may be able to tell when a kiss is leading to something else. The girl may need to put the brakes on first in order to help the boy.”

Reasonable Reasons to Wait (Student Workbook, p. 96)

“Boys can experience sexual feelings without physical intimacy ever occurring. A girl’s attire can rouse sexual feelings in boys. It is very important that teenage girls and boys dress appropriately, whether they are on a date or out in public. A boy can get the wrong message from what a girl might wear.”

Reasonable Reasons to Wait (Student Workbook, p. 96)

“A guy who wants to respect girls is distracted by s**y clothes and remembers her for one thing. Is it fair that guys are turned on by their senses and women by their hearts?”

s*x Respect (Student Workbook, p. 94)

“For a girl it may mean moving a boy’s hand. For a boy it may mean resisting a lonely girl’s need for affection.”

>Heritage Keepers (Student Manual, p. 107)

“A young man’s natural desire for s*x is already strong due to testosterone, the powerful male growth hormone. Females are becoming culturally conditioned to fantasize about s*x as well.”

s*x Respect (Student Workbook, p. 11)

“Will the wife work after marriage or will the husband be the sole breadwinner?”

Reasonable Reasons to Wait (Student Workbook, p. 185)

The curricula present stereotypes about gender roles as truth, including the view that men desire casual sexual activity from any and all women while women only agree to sexual activity to get love. In so doing, they place responsibility for setting limits on young women, who are told to watch what they wear and how they behave. Instead, students need to learn that both men and women are sexual beings and that both are equally responsible for making decisions regarding sexual activity.

Depict non-traditional families as troubled

“Compared to those from intact families, children from divorced families are more likely to be depressed, withdrawn and do poorly in school.”

Reasonable Reasons to Wait (Teacher’s Guide, Unit 6, p. 6)

“A divorced male is 3.4 times more likely to die from any cause than a married male, and a divorced female is twice as likely to die from any cause than her married counterpart.”

Heritage Keepers (Student Manual, p. 92)

“Sociologists even studied the myth that children would do just as well in divorced, single-parent and step families as they do in intact first marriage. That also proved false.”

s*x Respect (Student Workbook, p. 121)

It is not the place of sexuality education curricula to mandate choices for students.

Answer 7

Men like s*x.

very few people are religious, any more, which is one of the few reasons to really wait for marriage.

You where surprised by this?