Women who had a miscarriage and got pregnant again....?

Question

I had a miscarriage in April at 5 weeks. We told parents and siblings and a few days later lost it. It was really tough since it was our first. I'm now 4w4d now and am scared to tell my family and close friends that I'm pregnant again, but I want to tell. I want the support and excitement, but I'm so nervous. My husband and I agreed that we'd wait until the first ultrasound when we can hear the heart beat which will be 3 weeks from now. I guess I just want to hear some support and stories from you all.

1. When did you tell your family & close friends?

2. How did you deal with your anxiety?

3. What did you do to make yourself feel better until you were farther along and more confident?

Answer 1

I had a miscarriage at 9 weeks.  With my next pregnancy, I waited until I was about 3 months and had seen the ultrasound already.  I was actually nervous the whole pregnancy because I was constantly worried I would lose the baby.  The only thing that really helped was staying busy and talking with supportive friends.  Good Luck with your pregnancy.

Answer 2

Hello! I understand how you feel. WIth my last pregnancy, I lost the baby at 7 weeks. Then it took me almost a year to get pregnant again. So this time (currently 30 wks) I had to discipline myself to not say anything until the 13th week. It was hard but I just would talk to my husband about how I was feeling. I would just try to focus on you and your family. Everyone will know and be just as happy in 8 more weeks. I just dont want you to tell and then something happens, you know?! Also, when I went in for my first ultrasound with this pregnancy they didnt see the baby so they thought I had already had a miscarriage or would be having a threanted abortion. SO I had to wait another 2 weeks to get another ultrasound. That was another reason I didnt say anything. Its a very stressful thing but I comforted myself by reading up on everything regarding miscarriage and trying to do everything to prevent it without worrying so much because you know that can cause miscarriage also. So try to rest and not stress. Good Luck and keep smiling! Everything will be fine. ~Kasey~

Answer 3

My sis went through this, and waited until sh was 3 months to tell any one, good luck!

Answer 4

I also miscarried in April/May and told a few people so I know what you're going through BUT this also was my 3rd pregnancy 2nd miscarraige. (I had 1 MC then had a baby girl, Then the MC in April/MAY now I am prego again) So I say wait until you're at least 8-10 weeks i know its hard but it stinks when you have to go back and tell people what happened if God forbid anything does. So try to wait it out as long as possible or tell a few you can trust that won't spread the word and then u can feel excited with a few people then get excited all over again when you can make the BIG announment! I am waiting it out myself till at least 11 weeks just don't want to go through it all again if anything happens.

Answer 5

I've had two miscarriages and another lost pregnancy (complicated).  I have 2 kids now.  I waited to tell everyone until about 3 months, but to be honest most of them knew anyways.  I seem to get this certain look about me and my belly just pushes out for some reason so they all said they knew anyways!  The first miscarriage, we did tell people right away and it was hard.  The second time, we did want to wait.  We did have an early ultrasound, but still lost the baby after that.  I tried to keep busy doing other things to help with the anxiety. That can help with the confidence too.  It's just something we have to work through.  I also tried to avoid certain programs on tv that dealt with all of this subject matter!

Answer 6

I had one at 8 weeks and now have a bouncing 7 month old girl, it depends on how confident you feel, after one miscarriage it is less likely you will have another one. I told my family about the same time you did as i was just so excited, but more due to showing symptoms, back pain and people trying to give me ibuprofen lol. Anxiety will be with you throughout until the baby actually arrives but the further along u go the less likely you are to miscariage as i am sure you know. best thing to do is do little things that relax you, i did breathing techniques which helped calm nerves a lot. I interacted with my belly a lot from when i knew she coud hear things, if things feel right, then go with your instincts. and more importantly good luck and best wishes enjoy it.

Answer 7

Hi, first off sorry for your loss, i too had a m/c at 5wks in April (blighted ovumn), we had also just told everyone as well as this was our first and we were so excited.  However, i did fall pregnant again straight away.  Went for an early scan at 7wks and saw and heard the heartbeat, told family at 12wks, went for 12wks scan and found out it had stopped growing at 8wks and there was no longer a heartbeat, i had a missed m/c.  I was devastated having to tell everyone this again.  What i have learnt from this is that next time we will not tell anyone at all until we have been for our 12wks scan and find everything to be as it should be.  I wish you the best of luck with this but i would really suggest tryn to hold off.

Answer 8

We told them after we had confirmation that there was a heartbeat.  They scared me because at the first ultrasound there was only a sac, and he said it was a possible blighted ovum.  We went back a week later, and there was his heartbeat, nice and strong.  Right after that, we told everyone.

As far as dealing with the anxiety and making myself feel better, I can't.  I am 18 weeks and I still deal with it.  I try only to focus on the positive, and set my sights on when I will see him again on the next ultrasound.  I'm being watched very closely though, so I get to see him every week.  I just focus on the next milestone, so focus on the heartbeat, then focus on making it through the first trimester when miscarriage rates drop, and then after that focus on finding out the s*x, then focus on feeling him or her move, etc....

Answer 9

dont tell anyone wait until u start to show