Women who have had babies?

Question

how bad was giving birth compare to the worst pain you have even felt or was it the worst pain you have ever felt

is it as bad as the movies make it out to be?

me and my husband are thinking about having a baby but i'm scared of giving child birth

so tell me how it was

Answer 1

It's no worse than breaking a leg and having to wait 3 hours for the rescue team!

There are plenty of nice painkillers available nowadays.  I had gas and couldn't help laughing.  My friend recommended an epidural (she said "you won't feel a thing") but I got to the hospital too late for that.

Answer 2

Its bad.  It feels like your body is getting torn in two.  but after you see your baby you seem to think its all worth it and you on to having your next child.  I'm in child number three, can you believe it. After all that pain. child #1 c-section.  #2 regular birth (epideral failed me) now on three.  I'm scared and exited.

Answer 3

i just found out im pregnant and not due til april 27

of course i as well am scared of child birth but there are epidurals and even if you dont want one than think of it this way its only one day of pain your baby will be with you forever.

Answer 4

the pain is really really bad... but now they have epidurals and all that to keep the pain minimal. and by the way..even if the pain is soo bad that you want to pull your own hair..the moment u will see ur baby..u wont even remember labour.. that is the magic of becoming a mom..

Answer 5

Giving birth is no picnic , but everyone is different and ever labor is different. But basically it isn't as bad as the movies. I hope that helps.

Answer 6

every child birth is diff, mine was painful but it wasnt as bad as every made it out to be.  i did it without drug n i was 15.  

Answer 7

i have one word for you EPIDURAL!!!!

i had one with both my boys and slept through the worst contractions. didn't feel a thing while i was pushing either...it was great

Answer 8

For realistic births, check out YouTube and not the theatres.  Birth was nothing as portrayed.  

While this may seen contradictory, I found that I was more in control than I thought I would be.  However, I also was surprised at how my body simply did what it was supposed to do with "me" along for the ride.

The whole screaming at your husband, going crazy, thrashing is completely bad acting.  At no point did I lose control of my self-possession.  

Plus, if you have ever had a very physically painful experience, you know that you turn inward and are quieter the more pain you are in.  Think of someone in the ICU after a heart surgery.  They are lying quietly and often whispering because they hurt so much.  

OB staff can tell how far along a mother is by both how vocal she is and by how many times they have to repeat themselves or say "Mother, do you hear me?" because she's so focused on what she's doing that she is oblivious to the world around her.

While labor pains will make you scream and cry out if you don't have pain meds, it's more to use your energy to handle the contraction or push the baby out, not because you are out of head with pain.  You will be incredibly "in tune" with your body and what's happening.

I had an unusually painful delivery due to the baby's position.  I won't lie to you.  I have had pain to the point of passing out during my periods due to a physical disorder so I have a very high pain tolerance.  I am used to strong physical pain.  This exceeded the worst pain ever.  However, it was "pain with a purpose" which made is easier to take than past episodes of pain.  

I cared, but almost not all that much because my overwhelming desire was to do what would help the baby.  My own suffering seemed very irrelevant.  I had a job to do.  I had to birth a baby so that he would live.  When you are in actual labor, that becomes an all-consuming desire.  Nothing else really matters.

When the baby was five months old, I was pregnant again and glad to be so.  

The truth is that as hard as it is, it's only one day out of a life of hopefully 70+ years.  To give one day for the joy of having a child for as long as you both live is well, well worth it (and you don't really forget.  I think that you intentionally surpress it as though to say, "It's over.  I don't have to think about it any more.  That was horrible.").

Answer 9

It's different for every women, we all feel and handle pain differently.

Answer 10

DO NOT refer to movies when it comes to giving birth they havent' the slightest clue. to be completely honest it was the worst pain i have ever felt and you know what im about to go through it again any time now. dont be scared of child birth it will only make it worse instead try not to worry about it so much because as soon as the baby comes out you forget about everything.

Answer 11

I understand your fears. I felt the same way with my first one (now 26 yrs old)  I just figured if it was that bad, population would cease.  It's not as fun as going to a carinval, and it's different for everyone, but once you hold that baby, you'll forget about any discomfort you may have had.   Just look at women who have had several children.  Now, if it was THAT bad, wouldn't they had stopped at one?  

After reading other answers, I'm editing to tell you....I have 2 children.  I run a daycare and was back to work within a few days of both births.  I had one C section and one natural.  With both, I was up walking around within hours.  I had  a broken pelvic bone from a cycle wreck years before my children were born.  If I could have babies and be up working and walking around after that, so can you.  You're going to be just fine.  Don't let fear stand in your way of enjoying the most miraculous thing on this earth.

Answer 12

Its def the worst pain I have ever felt, But its so worth it.  I am not one to bash pain meds either.  I had an epidural and after that i was fine.  The movies make it a lot more dramatic.  Dont worry, If you really want a baby you gotta do it!!

Answer 13

I gave birth three times.  The first one was excruciating and I got the epidural.  At that point and time, yes, I felt like it was in the movies.  Much longer and I would have been screaming at everyone.

With our second, the epidural didn't work and I had to do it naturally.  It hurt, but wasn't that bad.  The second you deliver, the pain is over.  I only really yelped in pain once when I delivered her shoulders.  That was it.  Everything else was more of a burning pain.  I wasn't screaming like a banshee though.

My third was easy breezy.  I should have done it naturally, but I was nervous.  With that birth, I felt like I could have just delivered him while watching a movie and no one would have been the wiser.  lol  It was that easy.  

Each woman and each delivery is different.  Your tolerance for pain plays a big factor.

Answer 14

Delivery is NOT as bad as the movies make it out to be. The contractions leading into labor are very painful, but nothing you as a strong woman aren't naturally capable of handling.

If you are afraid of pain, then request an epidural. You will not be able to feel a thing except a lot of pressure....

Babies are wonderful and if you and your husband want a baby then do it. The delivery pain is the last thing you should worry about. You still have to raise the kid!! :)

Answer 15

I am not going to lie to you; between getting induced and me having an epidural; i had 30 min. of real hard labor. and yes it really does hurt it was the worst pain i have ever felt. But as soon as you see your baby you cant even remember how bad it felt. Don't be scared seriously. I'm a big huge baby when it comes to that stuff. If i can do it anyone can. I promise you; you will be scared at the end when your due date is coming; but nothing is like the happiness you feel after. and if you do have a baby; i fully suggest getting medication.

Answer 16

The birth doesn't suck at all. It's actually euphoric and amazing. BUT the pregnancy is uncomfortable and you have to take time to heal whether you give birth vaginally or by c section. Everything, for me, hurt before and after- but thanks to the epidural the birth was the easy part.

Good luck and don't watch those medical channels and tv births. For some reason they only show the difficult births. It's only going to scare you. No matter when you decide the time is right- any pain will all be worth it- I promise!

Answer 17

i wont lie it whien i got to the hospital the contractions hurt like h**l like nothing i have ever felt....then the epidural came omg relief but you know what all the pain is sooo forgetable i just remember the joy of meeting my baby boy. think of it this way if it really was so bad like the movies women wouldnt continue to have children after the first one. dont pass up on the greatest thing that can ever happen because of the fear. good luck.

Answer 18

I went natural.  It's the way to go.  It's not as bad as they all say.  Laying on your back is the most painful position.  Let gravity do the work for you.  

Do a bunch of research and take a natural childbirth class, that way you'll be prepared! :)

Answer 19

I had an epidural with both my kids too, but I did a certain amount without it (which is why I begged for the epi), I am a big baby with constant pain though. Once you are pregnant, you basically have no choice, the baby has to come out one way or another. I think most women are scared of either child birth or some aspect of it (tearing, stitches, intervention, pain etc). You would not be alone with the being scared out of your wits, lol.

Answer 20

The pregnancy was the hard part not the birth. I aimed to go without drugs but was induced and had a very long back labor so ended up with an epidural. If you are scared of the pain getting an epidural is the way to go. Just make sure you know the risks that come with it. Because of the epidural I was unable to get out of the bed when it was time to push. My son was stuck on my tail bone and most doctors would have done a c-section at that point. If I had been able to feel my legs I could have changed positions to push more effectively. I was very lucky and had a wonderful midwife that was able to get me moved around just enough to get my son over the hump.

The pain can be managed, there is really nothing to fear. Women give birth every day, if it was that bad do you think we would keep doing it?

Answer 21

well for me giving birth wasnt dat bad da head come out dat was pain full but it only lasted for bout 10sec but da worst for me was da contractions picture aving real bad intergestion like real bad an da pain never stops dats wot it felt like for me it has put me off having another but not as bad as it was after giving birth looking after da baby was horrible just make sure u av LOTS of support which i didnt have not even from my partner

Answer 22

It was the worst pain I've ever felt, but as soon as the baby is out you forget. It's not as bad as it seems. Your body was made to do it. I've also had a c-section and that was much worse than a vaginal delivery! Don't let the fear of childbirth keep you from having a baby.  

Answer 23

Most painful experience in my life, but also the most wonderful experience in my entire life! I always tell people that it was like a period cramp times one hundred! I had to be induced and I hear that the labor is worse, but still quite painful! After 10 hours of labor I gave in and got the epidural! After that, it was smooth sailing! So whatever your choice is, good luck! And all of that pain is definitely worth it!!

Answer 24

Well, I had a salmonella infection before I had a baby, they were about equal pain-wise.  It is some very intense pain, but your body knows what it's doing and you can get through it.  Take the option of an epidural if you are worried, it helps a ton.  And it's so very much worth it in the end, it's true what they say, you instantly forget all the pain when they hand you your beautiful baby.

Answer 25

I don't know about vaginal births since I had 2 c-sections. My second one during recovery was the worst pain ever in my life. I felt like someone was gutting me with a dull knife. My first one wasn't too bad.

Answer 26

i had my daughter 100% natural and i ripped in 5 places..it was the most agonizing pain i have ever felt..i really could not stand it..but it is so worth it in the end!when they put my daughter on me i could not even remember what pain was..

Answer 27

I have had two kidney stone attacks one four weeks after my baby was born and one 4 months. I don't remeber my labor pains as much as I remeber the pain  of the kidney stones. Your body release oxytocin at birth which is a hormone that helps you bond with the baby and forget the pain. Children are a wonderful gift!!!