Women who is the giver and emotional strength in your relationship/marriage?

Question

I have a theory all woman are selfish and emotional leeches.

So who is the giver in your relationship? Who buys dinner, picks up the other a little gift, cooks nice dinners, pampers the other, is affectionate, holds the other, does more housework, provides more money, does more little romantic things?

Who is the emotionally stronger one? As in who provides more emotional strength? Who holds the other? Who expresses less emotion in front of the other? Who is the one to cheer the other up more?

IS IT POSSIBLE FOR A WOMAN TO BE THE GREATER (OR BIGGER) GIVER (SPOILER) IN A RELATIONSHIP AND BE THE EMOTIONALLY STRONGER AND MORE SUPPORTIVE ONE?

Answer 1

In my marriage, I am both the giver and the emotional strength, with very little given in return. It sucks, and I'm miserable. I feel your pain. You'll find someone someday, though, who is perfect for you.

Answer 2

I am the one who buys dinner, I pick up little presents for my husband all the time, cleans the house, does the more romantic things.

He provides the money, pampers me with back rubs every night, and cooks nice dinner...(I am not such a good cook...but he is a true chef!!)...

So for us its not a race on who does more....

We both make it equal out!

Answer 3

there are cases where the man does so many things in a relationship and the woman seems to be the spoiled one waiting for everything to be given to her BUT this is usually the exception.

1. men do more housework? oh come on you cant be serious!

2.provide more money? do you live in the middle age or what?

3.cook nice dinners? you wish... too rare

4.buy dinner? usually only at the beginning of the relationship when they want to impress the girl (anyway its their choice)

5.are affectionate and do romantic things? do you actually believe most men do that?

6. about all these emotional things you mention i can comment that again rarely it is the man that saves the situation its just that stereotypes wont allow men to express their emotions that easily

and this has nothing to do with women

7. as a matter of fact women do tend to be the givers in a relationship and  in the end they are not even respected for that, and the support you mention is sometimes there given every day to the man but he's just too arrogant to appreciate it

I m not saying that the above facts apply to all relationships but they are undoubtedly much more often the case than the stuff that you mentioned. and you are obviously not satisfied with the history of your relationships but this does not mean all women are the way you think they are

Answer 4

I'm sorry the state of your relationships are in such disarray. Maybe it has more to do with the type of woman you seem to attract/be attracted to. In my marriage the relationship is give and take. I support my husband in his endeavors and in his times of need as he does for me. Generally this only occurs when both the people involved in the relationship show emotional and intellectual maturity. Maybe your question should be about why our culture doesn't produce very many adults capable of this type of behavior (both male and female).  

Answer 5

Wow I'm guessing you just got out of a bad relationship?  That's not a healthy position for EITHER a man or a woman to be in.  A relationship isn't supposed to consist of one partner completely spoiling the other, who's a complete jerk and doesn't return the favor.  Both people are supposed to give and take.  Oh, and I'd say that women fall into that trap a lot too.  I know plenty of girls who played that role in a relationship before and got totally screwed over until they wised up and ended it.

Answer 6

Mmm oh dear .. me thinks for roast you'll be.

Answer 7

yes I am stronger. I am not the cowardly type. I take care of my guy and look after him in most ways. I cook and I am gonna be a housewife when we marry. I do have a strong value system. It depends on the woman you marry and love dude.