Women who put their children up for adoption?

Question

What did you look for in an adoptive family?

Did you prefer your child to be an only child in the house? Or in a house with one or two siblings?

Why did you choose one way or the other?

I'm only asking out of curiosity.

Answer 1

my sister was going to put her son up for adoption she changed her mind last minute the agency she went through gave her a list of adoptive parents she was alowed to meet them talk to them and pick one she felt was most comfortable go with what your heart tells you to do good luck  

Answer 2

People don't necessarily complain about adoption if they had a bad/miserable childhood.

There are a lot of things that need to be fixed in the system. That is why some of the adult adoptees here aren't very happy about the concept of adoption.

Suzy: "They will report you at every opportunity and try to block your responses."

There's the pot calling the kettle black. You say that the anti-adoptees will report you and block responses through private IMs -  yet you won't even have the IM or e-mail option open on your own profile.

Answer 3

I would look for honesty & sincerity...a family being open & genuine about themselves & lifestyle

Answer 4

wow i cant believe some answers on here. well..... i gave my daughter up for adoption at birth. i live in Australia tho. i wasn't allowed to meet the parents but i could choose what kind of family she went to live with. ie: race, ethnicity, how many children etc. my list was pretty basic, i wanted a family that didn't yet have any children, i wanted them to have been married for some time. and i didn't want them to be religious nuts, ( no offense) i decided to go with a family that didn't have any previous children as i wanted my daughter to have all the love and attention that i wasn't going to be providing her with and i felt that a couple with no children would have more time. i asked that the family she went to had a stable home, (ie owned their own home) that both parents worked and had an education, for obvious reasons. that was about all. they asked if i cared if they were a different race from my daughter but i said that didn't worry me. looking back now i wish i had of asked that she went to a Caucasian family as I'm sure it would have made her feel more accepted. ( sorry i don't mean to sound racist) although as it stands, i don't know what family she went to.

hope that helps a little.  

Answer 5

To do that the woman should have to be systematically fixed as to never have children again because she does not deserve them, this coming from an adopted child.

Answer 6

These are the following things that attracted our baby's B.mom to us:

1)Colour of our skin- same as hers. She wanted her child to assimilate in the family without too many questions (We both are brown although different race)

2) Us as a family unit- we have been married for several years and dated many years before that...........shows our stable marriage. She wrote her baby a lovely letter that said " Now you will have a mom and a dad....instead of only 1 mom)

3) She was pleased to see our love of animals. She loved animals but had never kept a pet and wished her child could be exposed to such things

4) Our travelling the world, she wished the same for her child

5) Education- we have both studied a lot and she wished the same for her child as she herself had not been able to finish school.

I do believe she looked for a very loving, stable home with no other children at first.

I agree strongly with Suzy Sunshine- report abusive responses for "insulting members and ranting." I have had the same experience .

Answer 7

They are looking for a better life for their child than they can provide.

I admire any women who can do that.

Answer 8

When I put my daughters up for adoption I looked for a biracial home, because I am biracial and so were my girls. I wanted them to be able to relate to their parents and not feel out of place.I preferred a home where there weren't any children because I wanted a family who would be grateful for the gift I gave them and not just collecting kids. I also looked for a two parent home, because I couldn't provide that at that time.