Women why do you always need and want Men to listen to you in relationship, is silence such a bad thing? ?

Question

This has caused many modern men to be more feminine in thinking and acting towards women, this cannot be a good thing

Do women understand that men need his space? even after s*x sometimes

We don't want to become girls!

Answer 1

Well if there were more hours in the day and more money we would rather be shopping than cooking your dinner and trying to get some sort of conversation out of you! LOL xxxxx

Answer 2

Huh?

You think that talking to one's loved one is a female-only trait? Where did you get this idea. It's simply not true that communication is solely a female trait.

Among human beings, when one loves another, they are interested in them to the extent to listening to them and hearing about what's going on with them, and what they think and feel.

If you have no interest in any female, then you shouldn't be in relationships, since a relationship requires actually caring about the other. (And that is NOT a female-only trait.)

Answer 3

When women say "He doesn't listen to me " they don't actually mean listen (as in hear her).

They mean OBEY, he doesn't listen, from a woman,usually means he doesn't obey .

Answer 4

i think everyone does need time for themselves . but we tend to want someone we can talk to, like a friend.

Answer 5

No, I'd rather handle my problems on my own; besides, what does he need to hear me bellyache for?  I'd rather save the good stuff for him; by good stuff I mean the more enlightening conversations.  Give the guy a break I say, he works hard all day and has to hear me bellyache?  No way in h**l!

Answer 6

You know what? I'm going to test your theory out on my BF. He's always talking and loves to be around me. After s*x he'll pull me close and cuddle. That's all gonna change. I hope he likes it!

Oh and he had never been with anyone before me, so he wasn't made that way by anyone.

I'll let you know how it turns out.

Answer 7

Silence isn't a bad thing but if we are talking of course we want to be heard and not ignored.  Talking doesn't make you a women; unless you are saying that good communication skills are strictly a feminine characteristic. Of course women understand some men need their space... I like to give those men a lifetime of it.  I am a firm believer in what is good for the goose is good for the gander... So women if your man spaces out when you are trying to talk to him... return the favor.  If a man does not want to compromise with you because he fears he is not manly enough and will turn into a women... Take care of all those manly activities he wants you to enjoy with him... After all if you go camping, fishing, watch football or wrestling with him... you might turn into a guy... Right?

Answer 8

I don't think silence is bad. I would even say that it's important every once in a while! People do their best thinking when they aren't talking.

However, I would argue that communication is the most important aspect of a relationship and if there is something that needs to be talked about, you should open up and talk about it. If you can tell that the girl is talking just to get rid of the silence, then I can see your point. If there's noting to say, why go out of you way to think up something to say?!

Answer 9

We require an emotional closeness if a man can't provide that he's better off to pay a hooker and leave the rest of us alone.

Answer 10

Men and women communicate and express themselves differently, which can lead to misunderstandings or confusion. Men need communication to have a purpose, whereas women want to build and maintain relationships. (In general...)

In my relationship, I'm actually the one who keeps their thoughts to themselves, and my boyfriend has to encourage me to be more open. I need a lot of space, whereas he's more social. I think there's a time for talking and a time for silence.

Answer 11

"Wow. I never realized that some men were so weak and impressionable that a woman wishing to talk would turn him "feminine." "

Well Tracey, now you do.

I think these guys are ridiculous and disgraceful myself. I personally don't see why men continue relationships or in many cases even seek relationships with women. What benefit does it provide for man exactly?  

You want to talk, get a friend.

You want to have s*x, get some game.

You want to share the rent, get a roomate.

You want to hold someone and spoon in bed all night every night, and watch romantic movies together, feel the need to  spend copious amounts of time together, and stare into eachothers eyes while enjoying the sunset   ....   haha there you go- those are the type of guys who should have girlfriends.

Answer 12

All I can say is this: silence is golden, it works for me all the time, result.

Answer 13

The men too need the women to express your sentiments and things

Answer 14

I don't think 'feminization' (which remember is a combination of traits neutral until assigned to a gender) of modern males has much to do with them trying to get along with females. It, in my opinion, stems from more emphasis made on fashion and heightened standards of hygiene. Everyone needs space, I understand it more than anyone, I'm an introvert. I don't think there is a way to generalize this way about a gender. I have a co-worker who is literally talking my ear off daily and is quiet an annoyance, and he is a 56 year old man. So yeah, no, can't agree with you there. My bf and I spend hours in silence doing our own things and both are completely content.

Answer 15

Listening is a good thing..even in corporate america.  A good leader has good listening skills, even politicians sharpen this technique.

Men, as well as women, need their own space from each other.  

By far, women don't want men to become feminine.  I see this too much in my generation and the generation behind me; and lots of males are starting to nag just like...well, anyway.  

What women want, when we are speaking, or when we are at our weakest, is to receive encouragement, validation, or simply a speck of acknowledgement and we are totally interested in a man's perspective.  Why do we want a female's perspective when we already know it?  Stop hating; don't miss next weeks episode.  

Answer 16

Silence is a good thing...depending on the situation, but women appreciate a man who can contribute sensibly to a relationship discussion, silence would just be seen as another way of saying not interested... which in turn will lead to other problems which could have been avoided if the man had talked. Don't think REAL men will ever become 'girls' just cause they have touched on their feminine side. And last of all space? Women need space too... sometimes it would be great to put our men in the cupboard, after having s*x so we get our space until the next time you are needed! lol  

Answer 17

Communication is not a bad thing.  Personally, my boyfriend talks more than I do.  You do realize that some women need their space too, and in my case, when I need my space, I simply tell my boyfriend that, and in order for me to tell him that, I need to communicate those feelings to him.

What don't you understand?   Got a taste of some bad medicine?

Answer 18

Is talking so bad? isnt that what communication is for? or are we ticked the world got past grunting?

Answer 19

I think females want to feel "understood" by their mates, so they talk to try and maintain a constant rapport. Agreed that this is completely unnecessary, but that's how they communicate...

How this makes guys into girls, I have no idea.

It's not a matter of "not listening," it's that women often don't understand that when we are in the middle of *doing something* we can pay attention to what they are on about, or we can pay attention to what we are working on. We don't do both.

Answer 20

that's a pretty good point!

i don't mind if my guy shuts up! we all need our space!

Answer 21

While I understand that a man needs his space, a woman needs  communication.

Why does it have to be one or the other?  What happened to mutual respect?