My husband and I were just contacted by a young girl we both know very well in our neighborhood. She is 15 years old and pregnant with her second child. We were orginally suppose to be adopting her first born child but due to complications, the child was never brought to term and we suffered a great heartbreak. Anyhow, she is pregnant again and wants us to adopt this child. Both my husband and I are ecstatic but there is one problem -- she said she won't agree to this adoption unless we agree to an open adoption. My husband and I do not want an open adoption -- we do not believe that we should have to share "our" child with their birth parent(s). I know it sounds crude but once the parent(s) give up their rights, why should we send them pictures, letters etc showing them what they could have had? We would really love the opportunity to adopt this child but we aren't sure what to do. Any suggestions?
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