Wondering If I Should Tell Him?

Question

I have been with my BF 2 years as of December.

In the beginning I did not trust him very much and held somethings from him.

When I first meet a guy I dont fully disclose my sexual past.

Once I had gotten drunk and had a onenight stand, the other, I had s*x with an exBF after 3 months, but never told ANYONE about. I just never wanted to think about those men again. SO when I met my BF I never brought them up.

2 weeks after he and I started going out he cheats on me with his ex, me hurt, I cheat on him with mine. I never told him about this either because while he slept with his ex, I only kissed mine.

He tells me he loves me but I keep thinking if he TRULY did, would he stop after I told him these lies? Many people say this type of stuff is a girls own business and she has every right not to tell her man if it doesnt hurt him.

Right now Im thinking the truth hurts, and its unneccesary, but were thinking about marriage now.... I dont want him to walk in not knowing these things about me.

So if you were a guy would you care to know this stuff?

If your a girl, would you tell?

Answer 1

well i would tell him if he really loves you he will understand your reasons and will forgive you. if he doesn't then he doesn't really love you. a person who loves you would understand. besides he was with his ex, so he should understand.                                

                     So yes i would tell him. he should understand if he loves you. Good luck!!

Answer 2

Tell him and then get rid of him

Answer 3

The past is the past and it has made you and your relationship the way they are.  Don't open up an old can of worms if you two are happy and seem over the past.

Answer 4

First of all, kissing is not cheating. Kissing an ex is just inappropriate contact, not cheating. Second of all, what pupose does it serve to tell him every detail of your sexual life before him? Are you going to compare notes? Does it occur to you that telling him these things would just make him feel insecure about your relationship and himself? It is not necessary and it could lead to problems that need not come up at all. The past is the past, live in the present and let the past go. I applaud your desire to be honest, but notting bringing up the past is not being dishonest it is being wise.

Answer 5

kick is balls and tell him just before dumping him

Answer 6

Sounds like you really like living dangerously.  We don't know bf so don't know what he is like or would be upset about.  If he cheated, he would have no right to be upset that you did or didn't.  You don't give your age but talk about, "When I first meet a guy".  Sounds like you have been around the block several times already and should have figured out this answer on your own.  Only you and your bf will know the answer to this question.

Answer 7

i would tell him because you will feel alot better to get it out in the open. if he really loves you he will accept it & move on with you. the past is the past. everyone has a past too. you can't move on with the future if your stuck in the past. if he leaves  you then he really does not loves you as much as you think & you don't need him then. he slept with someone you didn't.