Wondering about old flame back in my life?

Question

I recently reconnected with my ex-boyfriend from 17 years ago. I found him on the Internet, wrote to him, he called right away and we went out this past weekend. This was truly the one that got away - the love of my life. Sparks flew right away. The attraction and flirtation was the same as the night we met. We went for dinner, had a great time and came back to my house. Things heated up, but he stopped it and said that he had to be honest, that he and his ex-fiancee broke-up about a year ago and that he still loves her, that he's emotionally still scarred from the relationship and not ready to get into another one right now. He said he would like to see me and if anything were to come of this it would take a very long time. I told him I understood.. but when things started heating up again, he pulled himself away and left. I have not heard from him since Saturday night. I think he's scared, but since he was so interested in talking to me, seeing me, and reconnecting, I am hoping this is a good sign of things to come. Your thoughts?

Answer 1

Just wait until he calls you.  If you try calling he will think you are being to clingy which will make him run the other way.  He also must respect you due to the fact he didn't try and use you.  He could be scared.  You have to understand that the man you knew 17 years ago is a totally different person now.  I wouldn't rush anything let it go slowly.  If he doesn't call you in the next two weeks he isn't interested.  He could be still in love with that woman and he is trying to get over her.  Do not call.

Answer 2

My boyfriend had rekindled our relationship as well.  It wasn't as long as 17 years but 3-4 years.  (it's a long and confusing story) Anyways, we started hanging out again and things slowly started to grow.  He didn't even want to be in a serious relationship (I didn't know this in the beginning) but he said he just couldn't resist it.  Now we've been together close to a year and things are just as strong as in the beginning.  

I say just be patience and wait it out.  Enjoy your time together and hopefully things will slowly grow to something great.

Answer 3

Well, at least he told you the truth. Is is gonna be hard for him to get into a relationship with you. And even if he does, at a later point, the ex-fiance will be an issue. Just be careful. Take it slow.

Answer 4

he maybe the love of your life but your clearly not the love of his life. he told you he still loves another woman. he stopped you 2 from getting intimate because hes still in love with another woman. what more do you need to realize that this is just a fantasy in YOUR head and not his. i suggest you leave this man alone. hes full of baggage.  

Answer 5

I think he was being honest.

Honey if you really really read the posts here you have to know there is absolutely no way you will compete with the woman he really loves.

Move on, find a man that will make YOU first place.  With the internet (as you know) it is very easy to stray into the arms of the one you really love.

Answer 6

At least he's being honest. Everything takes time, but if your the one he falls back one then I think things would work out.

Answer 7

Wow, a man that is actually honest. Who knew! I would keep him around, if nothing works out romantically, an honest man is hard to find at least you could be friends again. But, if he does call back do like he said and just take it very slow. Good luck.