Words of comfort, if you have any?

Question

I'm a woman (ignore my avatar) and I have loved my best friend for years, and I love him more than I've ever loved anyone, but he has a girlfriend and thinks of me only as a best friend.

I know in my heart that I can't love anyone else, and I would like to win his heart. All that I want is a love of my very own, and I feel like I'm the only girl who has never had someone special. I'm 29 and I'm scared that it would have happened if it were going to. It makes me sick to see him loving and being romantic with another girl, and my anger and hatred are tearing me up inside. I would be such a great girlfriend, but he won't even give me a chance. Please don't tell me to find someone else. I know in my heart that I can never love anyone like I love him. I've always loved latin men, even before I met him... he's Mexican, and handsome and romantic. I'm not trying to be mean, but I'm just not attracted to American, white guys. Nothing against them, but I'm just only attracted to latinos.. and my friend is latino... which is why another guy won't do. People tell me I haven't met the right American guy but I know my heart, so well. I want a passionate, romantic latino guy. I'm with a guy now that I know is wrong for me, and everyone says that eventually I'll fall in love with him, but this guy bores me to death and makes my heart sink with disappointment.

Do I stand a chance with my friend, or should I just give up ever trying to be happy? I can't love anyone like I love him! What can I do to win his heart?

Please only answer me if you have words of comfort. Imagine how you'd feel.

Answer 1

It sounds like your friend will always just consider you as a friend. You should be happy with that. True friends are hard to find. As for being with someone that is wrong for you....ditch the current boyfriend if he is not the one. You will find that one special person (other than the friend that you think is the one) and when you do you will look back and ask yourself why you spent so much time trying to get him to see you.

Answer 2

I believe only people that have been in this situation can understand how it feels, of course there are thousands of people in the same love lorn way, if there is a solution then no one has found it yet I never found it nor will any one else love is a spiteful companion its not all roses and wonderful feelings, why does it happen because no matter how we try to get on with life as every one else does, some of us are destine to fail and love a person who cant love us back were not weird or strange just unlucky at least you know where your true love is in life even if you cant have him some people never even find there's so try not to feel to hurt just except your destiny and go with life      

Answer 3

Well, I can't say I won't tell you the things you said NOT to tell you in your question.

You very well may be predominately attracted to latino men, and that's great! But a wonderful passionate man of ANY race could be the love of your life. You are excluding SO many people, thus why you may have not met a great guy yet.

Looks/race have nothing to do with how much someone could love you.

Also, your friend is seemingly happy. And if you truly love him, you should want him to be happy and love whomever he wants.

I know it hurts to love someone who doesn't love you, but this may be the way that it will always be.

29 is still young! My uncle just found and married the woman of his dreams - at 40! He is so happy now, I know he's glad he held out for the right person.

I know you don't want to hear it, but you should broaden your horizons! Your perfect guy may not be your latino friend, but someone totally the opposite.

Open yourself up to the possibilty and I'm sure in no time you will see that there are tons of guys you would love to meet!

Good luck and have a great day!

Answer 4

I think you need to tell your best friend how you feel, you'll will never know if he feels the same unless you reveal your feelings. Yea I know you said he only thiks of you as a bestfriend, but have you ever thought that might be because, he thinks your thinking the same way.

And as for your boyfriend dump him, if he's boring you now he'll bore you forever