Working and intersted in studies but distracted because of s*x fantasies and some other stuff?

Question

Hi I am 26 years old.I am working for an MNC.I have joined in CA but could not make it even after several attempts, still I want to do it I dont know what the reason is, but now a days I am not getting interested in studies and always in my mind thoughts regarding s*x and some other bad stuff comes up whenever I see a girl/women. I know it is not good to me and I will crush in my life if this continues. I even do not have a lover/girlfriend. I want to become a successful person in my life. If there are any psychiatrists or counsellors kindly guide me and help me out.you can also discuss with me at mtjimm at yahoo dot co dot in..Thanks in advance

Answer 1

the reason for all this is that..your goal is not inspiring..the goals must be inspiring..make them  big..dream big..then automatically u'll be diverted to the right direction..n make a strategy..n if this also doesn't work..build a good circle of friends..whose goals r somewhat similar..to yours..dont be isolated..n believe in competition..competition is must..u must be envious of other's success..n believe in urself..u can do nething n everythin..n s*x..u can do it as much as u want after marriage..so chill..bye..hope it hlps..

Answer 2

When you have something to achieve, you should chant it in your mind like a mantra non stop...

If you have these fantasies then try to remain away from them by following the few steps mentioned below:

1. read some books authored by great people like vivekananda or ramakrishna paramahamsa, even works of gandhiji or abdul kalam would do. these not only improve your knowledge but also inspire you and fill you with new determination.

2. whenever you feel that you are getting distracted, try saying aloud "I must not think about these useless things, I have an aim to achieve".

3. stop watching movies and films on these s*x realted topics if you are currently watching them.

4. stop using internet for finding more about s*x and related topics and stop usind s*x chats and msngr chats.

5. try keeping yourself busy, because whenever you are idle you tend to get these ideas and fantasies.

6. do some breathing excersises, relaxing techniques to boost up your concentration.

finally, s*x is a natural thing. it is not an unwanted thought. but it has its limits. excersising control on your mind is necessary, not only in this but in everything. because unless you learn to controll your mind you cant achieve anything.

all the best..

Answer 3

You should jerk off more, like 3 times a day. Then you'll be so drained you won't feel like thinking about it anymore.