Working moms only--are you a committed parent?

Question

I just had a young sahm mother state that a woman cannot possibly work full time and be a committed mother. How do YOU feel about this statement? This little girl was defending her sahm status and use of public assistance, whilst attacking me for being a single mom who works full time and pays her own way. As if a woman cannot work full time and be a committed parent!

Answer 1

I am not a working mom right now but I have been and my mom also was a working mom and she was completely committed to being a mom to me.  To prove her commitment though she would make sure she never worked more than 40 hrs a week and she did go to school functions and knew my principal and the teachers and she really stayed involved in my life.  I think you can work and stay committed to your children as long as you still make them a #1 thing in your life meaning that you don't work long hours leaving them with someone else all the time and you stay involved in their life no matter how old they are.  

Answer 2

Maybe you should take her answer in context of what you were saying... you said that teen mums that take any form of help whatsoever are bad parents.... really that's just as bad.

Sure you could be a committed mum (i don't know you so I don't know if you are) but you can't attack other people for their choices and expect them not to get defensive.

lol

"How do YOU feel about this statement?"

directly quoted from your post.

I told you how I feel... simple

Answer 3

My mother was a working mom after my sperm doner walked out on us. However. that was in a day when a single income was sufficient to pay all the bills. If a single mom can obtain employment that pays a decent wage, then I applaud her for it.

Unfortunately, we can't all have the plum jobs and daycare. That's when the social agencies step in to offer assistance. That's what we, the more fortunate, pay for. It allows our societies children to to grow up in a world without want.

And there are moms who cannot bear to be separated from their children. Some humans are just put together that way. Being separated from her children and not being there for us in times of crisis broke my Mothers heart and she died at a way too early age. Something to think about before you 'go off' on your next RANT.

Answer 4

I am not a full time mom (seeing as that im still pregnant) but i see no harm in puttin an opinion in here from someone who is with working mothers children all day (i work at a daycare).

i do agree that you can be a full time working mother and still be fully commited to your child... but now days it happens so much that alot (not all) of full time parents are not commited to their children...and its very sad! i work at a daycare with 6 toddlers and 6 infants. out of the 6 toddlers only one parent knows what their child likes to eat. weve had one boys mother send him jalapeno pizza to eat which after the first bit he started crying becuase it was hot. another child parents send him spaggetti with meat sause every other day... meat sauce makes him sick, and we constanty remind his parent of this, but still no change. its just sad when you work with children to see how it is as if the daycare teacher raises these kids. most parents bring there kids at 7 in the morning till 5:30 at night....meaning majority of the time with mom and dad is spent sleeping. i know this is not the case with all working parents but i do see where someone could seriously judge this subject. some parents look at commiting only as, giving the child a home to sleep in and being financialy stable. but it takes alot more than that to be a fully commited parent.

just thought id share it from another stand point

Answer 5

Yes, I am.  Full-time employee, active in the kids school, PTO, scouting.  Home cooked dinner (with the help of dad) almost every night (unless I'm overwhelmed by scouts, pto, etc).  Between dad & I the kids have never been in daycare.  

It's not easy, but it's possible.  

Answer 6

well im not a mom

but my mom had me older she was 27

and when i was born my father dumped us so then my mom got  ajob full time and she always sent me to school a great school at that i always had everything needed a home food toys everything then my mom had my brother with same man because she thought he changed then he left us again then my mom started her full time job again and im now 14 and my mom still has that job higher pay those and im so greatful my mom did everything shes done no matter what we were her main pri-orities and i cant even thank my mom enough for all that

Answer 7

I work full time and live life for my babies. I was a sahm with the first baby and things have changed so I have to work now That doesnt mean I am less of a parent.  

Answer 8

I work full time, but that does not mean I love my children any less than a SAHM.  I work because I have to in order to provide and because I do not want to rely on the govt to provide what I want for my children.  After work I focus on my 2 children, at night we read together, sing songs, and talk about our day.  On weekends I involve them in everything I do.  My job is thankfully pretty family friendly so I am able to take time needed for my kids.