Working with a cheated wife.. plz help?

Question

Ok my 2 year old work partner is been married for 2 years. her and her husband had 2 kids. they've been together for about 8 years now...

to make the story short...

She never cheated on her husband on those 8 years of them being together until she got her tubes tight about 2 months ago.

she cheated on him with this guy at work about 3 times iin the past 3 weeks. she will call her husband on breaks and tell him that she is staying over(at work) but she gets off work and spend 4 to 5 hours at that dudes house.

me and her are really close. she tells me all her secrets about her life, and why she is cheating and stuff like that,,which i think is a lame excuse.

This is whats troubling. i have a girlfriend. it make me think alot. it make me wonder if she is doing the same thing...

what do you make out of this issue.

any advice?

Answer 1

You should stay out of it, and make better friends.

Answer 2

It sounds to me that you are getting too involved in your co-worker's personal life and it is effecting your own mind and putting doubts in your mind. I think if I hung around a guy who was always talking about how he cheats on his wife, I would start wondering about my husband and men in general as well! It is an unhealthy situation for you to be in. I think you aught to tell your co-worker that you are not interested in hearing about her rendezvous with this other guy and would prefer to stay out of it.  Tell her it is effecting your ability to concentrate on your job and is frankly, causing you to feel depressed. Be honest about how it is upsetting you. Have you talked with your girlfriend about it as well? I mean sometimes it helps to talk to someone else about something that is bothering you (just don't accuse her of cheating on you!)



Sadly, cheating is common (especially for men) eventhough it is pretty much the worst thing you can do to a loved one (besides killing them). It is scary, but  there are plenty of people out there who do not  cheat and would never cheat. Hopefully your girlfriend is that kind of person, and mostlikely she is.

Answer 3

Just because your friend is cheating, doesn't mean your girlfriend is.  Not all women cheat....and not all men cheat.  You can't stereotype them together like that.  

Answer 4

best to mind your own business!

Answer 5

Just because one woman has turned into trash, don't mean all women are! Please don't let your thoughts run away with you...your girl is faithful. The only advice you need is to let it go,. Trust your girl and go on with your life.

Answer 6

It's like the old funeral example. If there's 100 people at a funeral, how many of them are crying for the deceased and how many are crying over fear of their own mortality? Seeing the deceased makes them have to face the fact they will die as well.

The same goes for infidelity. Honestly, there's nothing you can do about it after the fact. If you find out it's true, you have to decide where you go from there. And if you're in a current relationship, make sure the needs of your partner are being met. That is of course irrelevant if the person is one with a wandering eye. You can't really keep them happy. They'll do whatever they want anyway.

In the former example, if you are cheated on you must blame yourself. In the latter example, you can blame yourself for seeing the person for something they're not. Or you can blame them for being that type of person.

To close, I'd like to add that this woman had her tubes tied so she could s***w around. I guarantee it. It's her personality/mentality. You can't blame her too much for being the way she is. Those people can't help it most of the time.

Answer 7

Do you have any reason to think your girl is doing this? I dont think so, just cos you are hearing it from this lady. Not all us girls cheat, I have never cheated on anyone in my life, I think its disgusting.

Maybe have a talk with your co worker to try to get her to work at her realtionship.

Answer 8

Your girlfriend isn't doing the same thing.  She can't.  A married person that engages in a sexual relationship with any human but their spouse is breaking their vows and committing adultery.  A person that is single, meaning neither married nor engaged. can sleep around, without breaking any vows, cuz they are NOT in an exclusive relationship.  Today, people act as though they can have it both ways.  They want fidelity, but rule out marriage.  They pretend that marital expectations, are reasonable in a non-marital relationship.

Answer 9

Just because your co-worker has no respect for anyone and can't keep her legs closed, doesn't mean your girlfriend is doing the same. Either trust your girlfriend or dump her. Your girlfriend deserves better treatment.

Answer 10

She didn't cheat before because she didn't want to have a b*****d child or whathell? What ever excuse she tells her, know its just an excuse. She is either trying to have it all or she is really trying to hurt her husband's feelings. I think that you should talk to the cheater and tell her that it makes you uncomfortable her putting you on the spot like that, and about your girlfriend, just know that all girls aren't like the cheater, if you and your girlfriend are happy, truly happy, she will not wonder from a good man. :)

Answer 11

Just because one woman cheats the second she knows she cant get pregnant on her husband doesn't mean your gf is doing the same.

Id tell her to let her husband know about it or I'll let the guy what his wife has been up to.

Feel sorry for the two kids but she should have thought about that.