Worried..6 year old boy too girly?

Question

My 6 year old brother says he gets teased at school because he twirls his hair. He has done that since he was a baby and I figured it was just to comfort himself. He always has to have his hair tucked behind his ears and the hair in the front parted to the side. He also loves the color pink and likes to draw pictures of hearts and butterflies. He loves babies and will try to play with dolls. I encourage him to be his own person but kids tease him at school. He loves watching Hannah Montana and wants to get his ear pierced. He says he wants to be a rock-star. He saw me painting my fingernails one day and begged me to paint his. So, I painted his toenails with clear nail polish. My parents have put him in baseball to make him more boyish but he is scared of the ball and when he's in the outfield, he cares more about spinning in circles and watching the clouds than paying attention to the game.

He is a very sweet, loving little boy but I need advice. Should I be concerned?

Answer 1

That's just who he is, if he is g*y than he is g*y. I'm sorry for being so blunt but you know that's what you were thinking. He's your brother, you should love him no matter what.

Answer 2

Of course you should be concerned -- he is showing all the signs of spending way too much time with you and/or your mom.  This is a classic sign of father-abandonment issues.  Dad should be spending time with him, really enjoying time with him.  (If Dad does indeed spend time with him, then there is indication that Dad is absentminded in his presence; shows impatience, etc.)   Where is Dad?  Where is a youngish, active uncle, or even granddad?  Get him away from the girly stuff NOW. BTW, the hair stuff is nothing; he's just a tactile, nervous type that way, but the rest of the "symptoms" are not healthy.

Answer 3

You just described my nephew completely hes 5. If your brother wants to dance around and likes pink doesn't mean hes any less of a boy. But saying that my nephew barely ever sees his dad and has been around a lot of women for his whole life. At the end of the day hes your brother and you should love him no matter what.

Answer 4

i think he is just been him self he is only 6 leave him be he will be fine

Answer 5

Nah. Kids go through phases like that. Lots of parents assume their little boy is going to turn out messed up because he plays with dolls or likes the color pink - but you wouldn't assume the same thing about a little girl who plays with trucks, won't wear dresses, and likes to play basketball all the time, would you? He will probably grow out of it. If you're extremely worried, maybe take him to a child psychologist to get a professional opinion. But he sounds like a happy little kid to me who's just going through a stage.

Answer 6

is he brought up with girls...or he is yur only child in home? if yes than its natural   kids do usualy what he see around them need not to worry  he is very small only in six years. ofter 2-3 years he will come to know . than he behave like boys. why you are taking everything seriously why some male like to cooking i saw some little boys they very happy to wear girly outfit.your child is normal but only change things which around him.

Answer 7

Each child goes threw phases. Does not mean he is girly. My 6 yr old loves to cook, dosn't really like sports. He likes music and art. Boys go threw phases it is society that has deamed things right and wrong based on your s*x. I feel this is incorrect. Let him be himself. His personality is his own.

As for the nail painting you can blame society for that too, look at the singers and highschooler boys wearing makeup and such, this also goes with the wearing of pink.

I don' t think there is any concern needed.

It is like saying because a girl dosn't wanna cook and clean and play withe dolls and dress up she is boyish.

Answer 8

sometimes its on a genes or environment if its from genes you cant do anything about it. if its environmentally acquired there is a chance in changing the bahavior of yor son.

Answer 9

maybe you can cut his hair shorter and this stops him from this habit

Answer 10

He just has some out of the ordinary interests, thats all. Kids will always be mean, and will always tease each other, so even if he was "boyish" he would still probably get teased.

Just make sure you watch out for him though. It can still get to be too much, and cause depression. And if he is ever down, just tell him this quote

"Gold is tried in fire, great men by adversity"

Answer 11

First of all who ever said a 6 year old is "g*y" is crazy. How can a person have a sexual preference when they don't even know what s*x is? He may like doing these things because he is close with you. Also Hannah Montana may be for the music. All babies love other babies. No matter the s*x, they are fascinated by them. Now a days even men have there ears pierced, and who doesn't wanna be a rock star (and rock stars have there ears pierced)? To me it sounds like he has a lot of woman in his life. Babies learn how to behave by watching and coping the people around him, so if mom, and grandma always where around and not so much dad and granddad, this is normal behavior. What you could do is try putting him in karate. There are both boys and girls, plus in the beginning he will be standing in a line coping the teacher. Maybe you could even find a Mommy and me class, that way your doing it together but it's not "girly". Or maybe you can be a little more boyish, like go out and toss a ball around, Play a little be rougher with him, go fishing, you know be the "perfect dad". It sounds like he is coping you, so do all the things you think he should be doing.

Answer 12

WOW. I know it's so hard in our society to conform a child to what everyone else in the world expects they should be.

Is he happy with the way he is? Is the bullying bothering him?

Does he KNOW that his behavior is 'different'?

It might be that he hasn't 'caught on' yet that this is different and in time will get better.

Then again, it will be sad if he is HAPPY being this way, but changes becuase of how others treat him.

What does his PARENTS think of all this? Do they WANT him to act more like a boy, or just let it go?

I've never had this situation so I don't know what to tell you.