Worried? Cheating?. ?

Question

Okay he's a really nice guy, and cool person to talk to, but i am soo worried that he might be cheatin on my sister, they've been together 3 and half years, and have a 1 yr old baby girl name priscilla,....Well i don't see him often playing with his daugther, and my sister is a stay home mom, and he's always saying he have to go out with his friend, and spending time with his Father, which he mention to my sis long time ago, that he wasnt really close to his dad,.......and he gets off works at 5, and coming home around 8am?...i am worried that he's cheating, becaue my brother in law heard him talking to a girl, on the phone,.....so what you guys think?. Am i just lossing it?, or my sisters bf is actually cheating on her?...Please help!

Answer 1

this is a sticky situation.  if you say something to your sister and you are wrong...you will start WW3, and it will blow up in your face.  it would be the best case scenario for your sis to find out for herself.  the evidence that have you presented are good signs of cheating, but they are in no means conclusive.  if you talk to her boyfriend yourself, he might clam up, deny everything, or start sneaking around more.  you don't want him to know that you're onto him.  do you have anybody that he doesn't know that could follow him one day?  maybe with a little detective work, you might get enough evidence to go to your sis with.

Answer 2

Well, he's probably cheating but to be quite frank it's none of your business.  It doesn't matter how close you are to your sister, what goes in her relationships isn't any of your concern.

If anyone started talking to me about something like this involving my husband, I'd be FURIOUS!  It's none of your business what goes on in my marriage -- not even my own MOTHER'S business!  If someone came to me with proof he were cheating, however, of course it would matter and I would appreciate their concern.  However, if they were just curious and wondering because of his absent-at-home lifestyle, I'd tell them to buzz off!

Good luck.  I'm sure everything will work out for your sister.

Answer 3

he may be cheating or he may be trying to make things right with his dad but if i was her i would do some checking up on him but if you say anything she will proable get mad at you so unless you have pictures or video or a eye witness leave it be  

Answer 4

Seems there is a problem in the relationship and he might be cheating, he seems to want out of the house often and if someone over heard a conversation it might be true, he could be cheating and if you feel you need to tell your sister then do so, but be careful because you go and tell then you turn out to be the bad one, ask simple questions, see what she knows or if she has a clue, then you might want to share what you know.

Answer 5

In this sort of situation you are dammed if you do and dammed if you don't. If this were my sister I would probably get straight to the point with her and have a serious one on one talk with her especially if you are close. She probably already has her own suspicion going on in herself but is embarrassed to talk about it because she doesn't want people to feel bad about him until she figures out what to do? If she honestly is not aware of the possibility that he is cheating and someone does not enlighten her about it her husband could eventually bring her home a life threatening disease then your sister will have bigger problems to worry about and so would you.

Answer 6

Many men don't like playing with small kids.Also,not being close to his father a long time ago does not mean tht he cannot be close to him now.People change with time.So,both these things don't imply tht he's having an affair.But you can never say for sure. Is your sis worried about his behaviour too? If she finds nothing amiss,then relax.Usually,a wife or gf is the first one to notice changes in her partner's behaviour. However,you can always cross-check with his dad and friends as to whether he really spends time with them as he says.If their answer is in the negative,you can confront him directly or ask your sis to talk to him.  

Answer 7

Yep, you owe it to your sister to advise her of your intuition and whatever proof you are aware of. Let her decide what to w/it...but it TOTALLY sounds like cheating to me!!

Answer 8

It's possible he is.  Instead of telling her you think he's cheating, mention that phone call and ask her if she thinks it weird he stays out until 8 when he gets off at 5.  That should get her to thinking.  The thing is make her think about it without giving any real info.

Answer 9

do NOT mention anything to your sister until you have proof -

when you do - then i would let her know in a very sensitive manner of what is going on and what you found out -

not paying attention the baby and coming home late is a sign of cheating