Worried about a ex friend and ex boyfriend...

Question

What do you do, if your friend who has mental problems and a trauma that has happened in the past but none of their family knows about it??

I just realized tonight how serious his problems may be, they run deeper then just a trauma hes depressed about....Should I let his family know about this all.??.My friend(and ex boyfriend) won't talk to me at all anymore and I don't want to cause any drama in his family, but hes suicidal/ threats to hurt himself, wants to live in a fantasy world and meet strangers from online, he says he only wants to live till 35, ect..ect..ect..

Please this is not a joke. And no im not trying to get back at my ex. I really care about this guy, as a person and im worried.

Answer 1

get more information atleast abt his suicidal ideations,try talking directly with him test his insight into d problem,if he is also recognising problen den tak his consent n den tel family o directly tak professional help,but if it appears really serious,not seeing his state as problem ,has intense desire to end his life,then  in dat case he need supervision n professional care too.dat means u need to inform d family

Answer 2

you should tell the guys family.

Answer 3

tell the fam

Answer 4

I'd say if you are his friend you should keep him talking whenever you are around. Can you approach his family about this? Action now will feel better than wishing later. Talk to a counselor if you are able maybe he or she could set up some kind of intervention that would let you feirnd know that a lot of people care.Some people just need more caretaking that usual.

Answer 5

You're ex needs help beyond what you can give.  Secrets have a way of demanding attention. And traumas have a way of replicating themselves.  The longer he keeps it buried the worse it will get. He's probably in a lot more pain than he's letting on.

DO NOT tell his family. Not your job.  He can tell when he's ready.  

Not uncommon for trauma victims to believe they have a limited life span - even if they're not suicidal.  It's an indication of the unpredictibility of the world they live in.  Is he suicidal or just wanting to hurt himself?  There's a difference.  Either way he needs professional help but if he is truly suicidal take him to a hospital.  

Answer 6

tell his family u need to this is serious there gona find out eventually

dont tell his family just hint it at them

hopei helped

goodluck love x*x

Answer 7

Let his family know. Atleast talk to someone about it that can help him.  

Answer 8

sounds like the problems yours

Answer 9

I had a similar problem with a friend of mine, and I agree that is a TERRIBLE position to be in.

The most important thing is to get him help, but not to come on too aggressivee. If you do not think that his family will be able to help him without getting toaggressivee, then it is not a good idea. In that case, organise as many friends of his as possible and organise some kind of intervention/confrontation.

I do believe that hte best course of action in any situation like this is to,ultimately, make him understand he needs help. The more people close to him who tell him this at the same time.

Hopefully I've been helpful.

-Al