Worried about a kid?

Question

Me and my fiance use to live with his sister and her son. We used to babysit all the time for her. We would always have to tell her to wash his clothes and his sheets if he wet the bed {she would usually just throw them in the dryer.} Also if she would go to work at 7 or 8 she wouldnt feed him dinner before. We have moved out but still used to babysit and i would pick him up at 2pm and he would complain of headaches and i would ask him what he had to eat for lucnch and he said nothing. He would smell like pee and sweat all the time. Now we aren't allowed o see him anymore because my finace had a huge fight with his sister about living with some guy that kicked her out of the house. I miss the kid like crazy since i was pretty much a mom to him for 3 years and i am worried about him since he told me he was scared to stay at the boyfriends house {we told his mom this she didn't care.}. I don't think i should cal DCYF but I am worried and i miss him...any advise...

Answer 1

Call CPS and let them know, it doesnt mean they will automatically take him away. It will hopefully scare her, and she will take better care of her son.  

Answer 2

I know this is not what you want to hear, but you may want to report this mother to social services.  The mother will not know it was you that reported it.  It sounds like this child is suffering from severe neglect.  You have a personal responsibility to do something if you think this child is being abused.  It will be difficult for the child, but in the long run, this child will grow up healthier and happier.  Have you spoken with your fiance's mother or father about this?

Answer 3

You probably do need to call Family Services or DCYF.  He doesn't need to grow up this way.  

Answer 4

You have observed that the parent does not feed the child regular meals.  She allows him to repeatedly sleep in urine soaked sheets.  He is not being bathed regularly, or being dressed in clean clothers.   He is suffering from headaches due to lack of food.  He is forced to visit the mother's boyfriend, despite his fear of the man.   She is not providing the child with a stable home life, living with boyfriends who kick her out on short notice.   This woman has lost custody of two kids, and is clearly not doing very well with her third.  

Tell us again why you don't think that you should call DCYF?   This child is neglected, and his fear points to possible abuse.  It is your responsibility to report a child who may be at risk, and this child is at risk.   DCYF could still investigate and find nothing wrong, if you have made a mistake -- but you know that you haven't.

If the mother is not a fit parent, and it sounds like she is not, then perhaps you and your fiance might consider offering this child a home.

Answer 5

I would call child protective. She has already lost 2 children. What else is there to do? There has to be someone else that has seen this going on that can give maybe more evidance then you have too. Hope I could help. Best of luck!

Answer 6

somebody needs to step in because the signs point toward abuse of somekind.

Answer 7

You're concerned about the child's welfare, the mother has lost custody of two children previously... why on Earth aren't you on the phone with DSS right now?  If you stay silent, you're just as guilty as the mother.  Please do something immediately.  Good luck.