Worried about talking to my dad about homeschooling ?

Question

Yesterday i wrote a long letter(5Pages) to my dad about some bullying i've been getting over the past 3years of school. I'm worried about how he will react to this. I Don't want the school getting involved i just want to be taken out of that school. Noone likes me and i know that for a fact. And the fact i don't like them and i just wish i don't know them anymore! How can i just tell my dad i don't want to go back there and i just want to get all the books all the legal stuff sorted out and teach myself and my dad to help me. I don't want a tutor as it costs and also i just think i'd learn more if my dad was to teach me. I have done alot of research on homeschooling or home education because it is a big and very important thing. I just don't think we'll be able to sort all this out before thursday which is when i go back :[

Answer 1

Home schooling takes a lot of time and effort, for the student - and the parent, if the parent is involved in the teaching.

I had a miserable time, too, in public school. There are a lot of online schools where you can get actual credits, etc.. and work towards a diploma. A few states even offer online classes free, which might be a good alternative if your dad doesn't want to home school you himself. Some even consider online schooling to be far superior to public schools due to personal teacher attention, more time to learn, etc.

I'm not sure what your dad will say to your letter, but I hope for the best. Some parents believe that bullies are a part of life and that people should deal with it, but dealing with it is pretty psychologically torturous... :/

I wish you the best of luck, Sarah.

Answer 2

kick him in the knee and call him a racist

Answer 3

Well right now you feel peer pressure because you think by telling your teachers and your administrators ; that for some reason everyone will make fun of you. your father has alot of work and bills to pay and he is responsible for your future. But you are too. Be brave & Remember that those same kids that bullied you will pay back. Ignore and smile at them. They are not the one doing your school Work. I am 18 and graduated. I dropped out because i felt bullied all the time, But i went back to school and i did my work and i ignored everyone, Now i know the only way was to snitch on all of them and get my pay back. Let them laugh.. what's it going to hurt? They are dumb because they can't act their age! : ) Listen..........IF you homeschool, your days at home will be depressing , more than school is. I'm sure you will find a bestfriend at school At home there is nobody. Just your dad

Think about it kiddo.

Answer 4

well, present him with your argument above and show him the research you have done on home education.  Help him understand your situation and why you want him to teach you.

I am not sure that it is such a good idea that he teach you, because parents will be too involved if they educate their children.  You need an outsider. someone who can discipline you as well

and doesn't your dad have a job?

Answer 5

just tell him it will ruin your ,life... that you cant and wont learn anything else in school with all the bullying.

make him understand there will be no chance for a future if you stay in the school.

My personal opinion... you should stick with anther school, your chances of having a great future will be thrown out of the window...

Answer 6

just talk to your dad about it. chances are he won't want you to be homeschooled and maybe try to fix the bullying thing or maybe move u to a different school. dads can be like that. but if you do move to another school, make sure you make a good impression. don't be mean to people, but stick up for yourself if you get picked on. don't be too quiet or too loud. it's all about balance i've found.

PS: tell us what happens i reli want 2 know! good luck.

Answer 7

For one thing it depends on whether or not your dad works, and if so would it be possible/advisable for him to do so.

Secondly, I don't think that a letter is the best way to tell him how you feel. It may be a good idea to collect your thoughts that way, but you should be able to speak to your dad on the level.

If you are really serious about home schooling, and you know how you can get any qualifications you may need for the career you want, and if you'll have a shot at getting into university if you want to go, then here's one or two tips. When explaining your position, DO NOT list off lots of reasons why you want to home school; choose three or four points and back them up. It's been proven that people feel more strongly about a few good points than dozens of little insignificant ones.

Finally, I would like to to really think whether you are willing to make this sacrifice. It is a life-changing step, and there is a very large chance that you won't receive the important life skills that are provided by school; teamwork, people skills, confidence etc. There's a chance it'll make you less employable, and by the time you enter the world of work you'll be in for a huge culture shock.

Please, just consider my points

Answer 8

I hope everything goes well when you give your dad the letter.

Best of Luck!

Jana

http://www.purehomeschooling.com/

Answer 9

I agree with some of the other people.  Give him the letter and present him with your research.  There are also online highschools, so you could go that route.  Then your dad would only have to help you when you're having trouble, just like if you were doing public school homework.  I wish I had known about homeschooling when I was in school.  I got bullied constantly from elementary on, nothing physical so my parents didn't really understand.  It eased up in high school and I didn't really have too many problems in the last two years.  Mostly the popular kids ignored me, but I had my group of outsider friends and we didn't care.  ;-)  But if I could have homeschooled, I definately would have.  Good luck!

Answer 10

Give him the letter. Don't decide in advance that he'll say no. Sure, he might and then you'll need to argue your case but he could turn round and surprise you. It's better than assuming he'll say no, not even asking and working yourself into a full blown panic attack.

He's your dad, he cares about you. The main barriers to you convincing him to home educate you are getting past his belief that the bulling problem can be fixed if he calls the school and his doubts about your future if you don't go to school.

Trying to get the school to do something about it sounds great but even with an angry and determined parent on side 'anti-bullying' policies are generally not worth the paper they're written. The teachers are just as likely to punish the victim because it's easier than dealing with the bullies. Parents who pull their kids out of school because of bullying don't do it as a first choice and yet it's becoming a VERY common reason to home educate. I've heard some utter horror stories!

What you need to do by Thursday is convince your dad to give it a try. You don't need a full plan for the next two years in place, just his agreement that home education is worth a try because the situation as it is just won't do.

If he won't listen do you have any adult family or friends you could talk to who might be open to the idea and could explain things to your dad, try to convince him?

p.s. you're totally right about timetables and job prospects and the rest. Ignore the nay-sayers. Talk to your dad about this ASAP and then come back and tell us how it went. Good luck!