Would You Be Angry If You Find Out Your Boyfriend Is Still Giving His # To Women?

Question

We've been dating for 4 years. We have one child and are expecting twins shortly. I recently found out that he's been texting this woman he met in a club a month ago on a consistent basis. He's even asked her if he could come over and "take a nap." He also said he enjoys being single. This was suprising to me because we're in a relationship and i would consider this a h**l of alot more than a casual relationship.

I confronted him and he said the only reason he asked to come over and take a nap is because he was tired. He has a home and it's so disrespectful to me that he thinks it okay to go sleep at any woman's house he randomly met at a club. They talk at 1,2,3 am.. I asked him how would he feel if I was still giving my phone number out to men and asking them if I could come over and "take a nap?" he said he would be angry and want to break up with me. I'm so angry and this makes me wonder what else he's been doing and with who. Because another woman said she wanted him so badly and wants to be with him and I asked him about that and he lied and said she never said it. It was in his d**n phone so its not like it wasn't there.

I told him that if he likes being singe then that's how things should be. He said no, he doesn't want to be single. I'm so angry with him and I feel like my trust for him is gone. Am I going to far with this?

Answer 1

what are you waiting for you don't need to be with him if he doesn't respect his marriage wife and child then he has no right to be with yo if he wants to be single let him be single but go to lawyer do everything legally file a case against him get a divorse  and make his life h**l.

Answer 2

First of all, you have every right to be angry with him, especially if you have caught him lying multiple times.

As a boyfriend and as a father, he should be committed to his family (especially with two more on the way) and not trying to sleep with other women. Suggesting to take a "nap" is merely an informal start to what could lead to a lot more.

However, the ultimatum for you is a lot higher. If you decide to break up with him, your children may have to live with a single parent and could put a lot more strain on your shoulders. That is not to say you couldn't pull through without the support of family, friends, and others. On the other hand, if you decide to stay with him, you have to live with the knowledge that he has cheated/is cheating/has intentions of cheating on you. Once you've confronted him, he may "claim" to change but old habits are hard to break.

The choice is ultimately up to you and how much you value him as a father, and how much you can trust him as a lover.

Good luck!

Answer 3

Going too far?

Nope. If i were you, i`d kick him out, as this would be cheating.

This is not the type of behavior you would expect from a father.

Sorry you are in this mess, but i really think he will be gone quite soon.

Answer 4

I think where you went "too far" was when you decided to have children with someone who wasn't committed and faithful.  That seemed like a bad decision on your part, a decision that was inconsistent with reality.

Answer 5

kick his butt out. he is already proving that he is not trustworthy

Answer 6

Sorry, but I have to agree with everyone else on this.  There's A LOT of smoke here for there not to be fire.  And his excuses aren't the best.  Not only is he most likely cheating, he doesn't seem to think too highly of your intelligence.

Answer 7

He wouldn't be my boyfriend...please don't think if you get married it will change

Answer 8

Oh please,  no one goes over to someone else's house of the opposite s*x to "take a nap"

LMAO

He has no intention of being serious with you...if he did you would have a ring on your left hand by now and documentation at the court house to back it up.

Answer 9

I'm not even going to get into why.... you need to leave this PIG! I can't believe you even fall for his stupid lies! Not only is he disrespecting YOU and YOUR child.... but you are disrespecting yourself by staying with a man who would do these things to you. REAL MEN who are committed to their partners and children DO NOT do these things.... and you are not going to get treated any better unless you leave this man and find someone who will treat you like the way you should be treated... Value yourself and Know What YOU deserve!  

Answer 10

I think you're taking this VERY llightly...Someone txts me to come and take a nap, it would be in his arms. He obviously told ehr he lieks being single, what do you tihnk that means? it means he wants to be single! come on now! the writting is on the wall!