Would You Marry Her under these surcumstances??

Question

ive been with my gf for alittle over 2yrs.. we are both 22. i recently found out that she doesn't have US citizenship, she has actually been here 3 years passed her legal visa. Shes been here for 5 yrs total. Just last week we talkd about marriage and she stated that she needs to find a way to become a citizen ASAP or she may get deported. (there really are NO other options that we haven't seeked.) it puts me under some pressure bc my feelings for her are very very strong however i am not in love with her. As i believe its the same for her.. dont' get me wrong we get along great and i do see that we could have a future together. Im kinda thinking that if we do get married in time our love could grow, just like any relationship it either works or doesn't.

WOuld you marry her under these surcumstances??

Answer 1

no i wudnt marry her just 2 get her a visa but if u fink u will love her den u propably shud marry her so dat she doesnt get deported cuz if she does den u will fink u realli did love her n will b gutted u didnt do it wen n while u still had da chance :) gud luck XxxxX

Answer 2

No - and I do not say this because you don't love her - I say this because if you do marry her under these circumstances this will always loom over your heads.  You will always feel like she owes you something, you may even resent her for this later on; you also may start wondering if she was just using you, if she was planning this from the begging etc.  And depending on how you handle these feelings she may have negative reactions to you feeling this way.  No, I would suggest not marrying her.  

Answer 3

You can't marry someone you don't love. And you don't love her.

Answer 4

No, I would NOT marry. You don't marry somebody you may potentially love someday, you marry them because you love them now. If you marry her because you are a good friend and don't want her to get deported, you're going to be stuck with her when you meet a woman you don't have to work hard at loving. And in order for her to keep her citizenship you must stay married for at least ten years.

Answer 5

I would call immigration and have her sorry @$$ deported.

Answer 6

Nope....if your not in love, even if there is a chance it could happen in the future, don't get married.  Sorry, I know it sounds cold, but marriage even if it is fake to some degree brings along with it a world of responsibilities and emotions that you can not deal with unless your in love and committed to the marriage.  Expecting or hoping that love will grow is like standing on the edge of a cliff and hoping the wind will blow you towards land and not over the edge.

Answer 7

You should learn everything about her and love her before you marry to her. Once marry, you have make sure that she's a u.s resident and she probably going to ask you to spend some money to move her family to the u.s too. Becareful of marrying foreign women, it could be a financially burden for you. It takes alot of money to move one person to the u.s.

Answer 8

Marry her for the sake of the citizenship.

tell her that, tell her that its just a piece of paper, you two are not really married, maybe you will in the future, but for now its nothing,

make sure you have all the right arrangement to make it only a paper marriage , like if you get divorced each get their own money, not the split both mony. if you dont live together don't move togather. keep things the way they are.dont tell your friends that you two are married.

just do it for the sake of her getting the citizenship and sign the papers,make sure tho that you can get out of this marriage easily, if you marry her now you will regret it bcz you'll never love her, when you try to push your feelings, the jump the other way.

make sure to make it clear to her that you two arnt married, its just a deal so she can stay.

Answer 9

No. I'm not fond of people who break federal laws for their own benefit, then use other people to get around it.

She SHOULD be deported if she has overstayed her visa for 3 years.

Answer 10

No.. I would not want to marry her..

Trouble!

Answer 11

Under these CIRCUMSTANCES yes, you'll probably get married anyway, right?

Answer 12

Be careful...you should be in love before you are married.

Answer 13

if you dont love her---never marry her at all but at least be kind to this person by telling her directly that you do not love her, ok please! geez you are making this terribly hard for the both of you, so then at least she would know she has no future with you and you could stop living that selfish egotistical life of yours.

Answer 14

I don;t think I would want to get married if I had to ask.

I guess circumstances, however, are such that getting married would be very helpful to her as a freind and therefore I probably would consider it very seriously.

Answer 15

Nope.

It's a tough call, and if I were in your shoes, I would probably make the wrong call.  But for me standing here in the harsh light of objectivity, the answer is unequivocally "NO!"