Would a loss in weight help my current situation?

Question

I am a 31 yr old male. I have never had any relationships or been shown any interest. This is despite the fact I have been told by friends I am cute looking and have a nice face. I am a bit overweight, infact when i think about it i have at least 2 stones to lose - I am 5'8'' and 13.5 stone (86kg) though all the weight goes around my middle as in a gut.

Would it help to make me more attractive if i lost the weight. I believe people attract on physical characteristics firstly followed by personality. I don't think it should be like this which is why i havent lost the weight earlier but am becoming more realistic.

I don't think i'm obese but when i look at most guys my age they are fit and in good shape. what should i do?

I am annoyed I have spent up to the age of 31 without any relationships.

Could the problem actually be something else psychological?

Answer 1

if u dont have a gf then its either cos ure scared,bad personality or unattractive

dont change ure personality cos then ure not ureself, i dont think ure scared then maybe theres something to do with ure weight no offence

it wouldnt hurt to lose a few kilos u know

Answer 2

If you want women you seriously have to go and get them.

Get yourself a teen grrl to help you pick your clothes.

Everything I own that looks good was picked by a teen grrl.

Answer 3

Yup, lose some weight.   You KNOW it prolly inhibits you & your social interactions.  You'll feel better physically & mentally have more confidence if you know you look your best.

Answer 4

there is only one problem here and thats your confidence. your own insecurities are consuming you and thats probabalay why you have not had a girlf not because of your weight. We all come in different shapes and sizes and it would be a boring world if we all looked the same. What one person thinks is attractive may be a turn off to another, its individual preferences. I know it sounds silly to be happy and confident (not cocky) within it radiates on the outside and makes us appear more attractive. we should all have something that we love about ourselves, its not being vain but when you like yourself enougth to know your worthy of meeting a decent person it will happen. I take the mickey out of myself, like most girls i have days where i feel rotten and days where i feel s**y, i have imperfections am not perfect but then i am grateful i am healthy and happy and have a lovely son. Your confidence is so low that i could even imagining you asking girls if they think your fat...am i right?....it would be much more attractive to just put it into perspective and think hey am maybe not as slim as other people but i still look good! I used to be really skinny i am still slim but i look at pictures of the time in my life when i was overly skinny and i was unhappy i didnt enjoy food and i was obsessed with looking a certain way....as a singleton i get lots more attention now i have curves, i think women are the same with guys they would much rather have a guy who enjoys their food and has a pint and not some drip who is obsessed with the gym and only eats chicken!

On the other hand tho if you feel that losing a bit of weight would help your confidence then go for it, but dont do it for anyone else do it because you want to and you want to feel good for you, thats the difference between the right and the wrong reason.Why not budd yup with a mate and go to the gym together turn it into more of a social thing,

I am sure by focusing less on finding someone and focusing on the positive you will see a rise in your confidence. Women like men who smile who have a gsoh....just keep that in mind...good luck

Answer 5

People are  gonna say you should work on your self esteem, but that's bull! If you can then I say do it! I'm 5' 8 and 61kg and I feel I'm overweight!

Good luck.

Answer 6

Maybe its your weight, maybe it isnt. You need to start eliminating things you think are causing you to not have a relationship. Start by trying to lose weight...that never hurts. Losing weight causing you to feel good about yourself and you start having more confidence. As a woman, a big plus for me is a man with confidence about himself. I've been with men who are big, but it didnt matter to me because they were confident. You shine when your happy with yourself.  

Answer 7

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