Would a parent who puts his child in a position he will need counselling in need of councelling himself?

Question

The man had been in counselling with his partner last year but he stopped going after a few sessions because he didn't think he needed it.His partner went to individual counselling as well the two sessions of couples counselling.She felt he needed more but you can't make someone want to attend and participate.

Answer 1

For anyone to behave in this way is horrendous beyond belief.

I don't think such people deserve to have children.

Children, who are our most precious resource, deserve a loving, nurturing and happy family life.

Of course none of us are perfect parents and difficulties will arise but it seems like this man has behaved in a reprehensible way and should have little, if any future contact with his children.

Will counselling help this man?  I very much doubt it but if he wants contact with his children, then the family court (I don't know if you have one in Canada) can order mandatory counselling for each member of a family, both separately and together.

Answer 2

Your question isnt making much sense, but i'll give it a shot here.

If the relationship is over, and it is for the best due to problems within, arguing, fighting, yelling, etc, then the child will be better off with the parent who is keeping him or her, the mother here , i assume. So the child may or may not need counseling. the child may be fine with it, You dont mention the age of the child. If the child is , say between 13 and 17, then he or she can decide if they want to talk to someone, as theyre having problems. If younger, than the mom should be able to see whether or not the child needs help, by the childs behavior and of course what they're saying about the relationship break down.

Good luck

Answer 3

I don't know, your question is pretty generic.  He may or may not need it we all handle things in different ways.

Answer 4

Yes, he should go to a counselor, but you can't force him.  He thinks he doesn't need it, what does the counselor suggest?  Probably that he does need it.

I'm in the middle of a nasty divorce.  My soon to be x is a manipulative person.  He was court ordered to have a psych eval, but lied to the doctor, I got a copy of the eval, he is in such denial.

Unless he's willing to change, he will not find any good in counseling.  My stbx blames me for all of his problems, this is his personality, and from what I've seen, he's not the only one like this.  He's dillusional.