Would an early-40's man be attracted to an upper-teens/early-20's woman even if she's a little overweight?

Question

I've asked a few questions in recent days about why a family I used to babysit for every single weekend for a year suddenly stopped getting me. The family took me in almost as a family member, or at least a close friend, & they confided a lot in me. They invited me places with them & even just had me over to hang out or for dinner sometimes. The mom & I used to be good friends & I was always super comfortable with them, & vice versa.

Suddenly 2 months ago they stopped interacting w/ me w/ no explanation except that they "need separation".

From the limited info I was able to provide, the most common theory people had was that the dad was attracted to me & the wife felt threatened. Admittedly I've wondered the same thing.

He's in his early 40's, I'm 19. I'm a little overweight. Not super fat or anything, but a little overweight. Otherwise I tend to think I'm fairly attractive.

Would an early-40's man be attracted to an upper-teens/lower-20's woman even if she's a little overweight?

Answer 1

Definitely.  Probably what happened.  You did nothing wrong - I'd hope.  Then you are good to go : )  Be glad you are out of there - bad vibes and karma to mess in married affairs.

Answer 2

first things first... even though you believe that you are overweight.. don't feel like thats a negative factor of someone being attracted to you. Yes for myself, I consider myself healthy and find that I attract men in their late 30's and early 40's. I don't like them because they are older than my oldest sister but anyhoo....

yes, that could be a possibility

Answer 3

yeah he would be

Answer 4

There was actually a movie made based on that sort of thing. It's a classic from the 60s and called Georgy Girl. Vanessa Redgrave stars in it.  In the movie, Georgy is a somewhat pudgy girl who has some old guy who keeps constantly hitting on her despite the fact that he's married and she's much younger and overweight. His wife dies, and he still keeps hitting on her. She marries him despite the fact she doesnt' love him, but because he can provide a home for her and a baby she adopted because her roomate abandonded the baby.

However, in your situation, the weight may or may not be factor. Vulnerability and malleability probably is.  If that older man thinks he can control the situation, then he will.  Sometimes those kinds of men will seek out women who have a perceived lower self-esteem in order to boost their own self-esteem.  I'd say those are the kind of men you want to stay away from.  They are NOT doing you any favors.

Answer 5

Reason number I why a man in his 40's would want to be with a girl of 19-20 would be for s*x..you could be fat chubby skinny or even missing half your teeth..doesn't not matter..

Reason number 2..the man needs someone to feel like a father to. These men are usually control freaks.

Don't even go there