Would any adoption agency adopt out to a almost 20 year old married woman?

Question

My husband and I just found out we are not going to be able to have kids...and I really want a child. We are able to care for a child and we want one terribly! If you know of any place who lets younger married couples foster infants or toddlers, and then possibly lead to adoption, please send me the sites.

PS: I Live in NC (Fort Bragg)

Answer 1

depends on your state laws. Wisconsin says you must be 21 to do foster care or adopt

Answer 2

Are you Army?  There are plenty of places that will allow you to adopt a child.  There are also many children in NC that need homes.  I wish you had email or IM turned on.  I could talk to you about this so easily and show you where to go to apply for a foster-adoptable child.

Answer 3

as long as you can financially support it i dont see why.    you can also try fostering children too that need a home because alot of the time the parents dont get their act together and you could adopt the baby.

Answer 4

Your only 19 years old. I don't know of any adoption agencies that would be willing to give you a child. Maybe try to find a young pregnant woman who is looking to give her baby up for adoption, if she likes you maybe she will give you her baby, but other than that no reputable adoption agency is going to let a 19 year old girl adopt a child. In my opinion you are too young to have a child naturally, let alone adopt one. Grown up a bit then decided if you want to have a baby. What is a 19 year old doing married in the first place if pregnancy was not the reason?! You are so young! Wait you need to be married for longer and you need to be financially able to support a baby, at 19 or 20 years old you can't financially support the baby to the best of your abilities, you'll be much more ready for something like this at 27-30. Grow up sweetie, get a college education, and live your life then think about adoption!

Answer 5

I would suggest starting out by reading up on the effect that adoption has on adoptees.  Read The Primal Wound and The Journey of the Adopted Self.  Take a look at the links that people provide on this site.  Do your research.  Adoption isn't a way to fill a hole in you; it's a way to give a home to a child who needs one.  If you wouldn't have adopted even if you were fertile, then you're not doing this for the right reasons.

I'm not trying to attack you here.  I understand your position.  I'm just saying there's a whole lot more to the adoption process than the paperwork and money, if your desire is to be  a GOOD parent.

After you have grieved your own losses and done your research, I'd suggest starting out with foster care.  You can adopt through the foster care system for free, and you will be giving a home to a child who really needs one.

Good luck, and take care!

Answer 6

Check around different agencies.  I think the age limit is 25 because I tried the same thing, but ended up adopting through the state Foster to Adopt program.

Answer 7

Most adoption agencies / countries want the parents looking to adopt to be at least 21, 25+ in some places.  Depending the agency some might let a couple adopt where one is at least the age of requirement. Also some will require a married couple to be married for a specific amount of time generally from what I have seen 3 years. I would suggest that you all enjoy life as a couple for a few years. You can do some adoption research in the mean time look at all the different types of adoption and find one that will work for you. Read some books on adoption.  Find out the adoption criteria for that country/state/agency etc.   Since you all are a military family you also will want to look into military adoption.  

http://military.adoption.com/army/milita...

Answer 8

I live in NC too.  Check out the Christian Adoption Agency, maybe in the northeastern part of the state.  

If they won't let you adopt yet, consider foster care.

Christian Adoption Service

624 Matthews Mint Hill Rd #134

Matthews, NC 28105-1845

Phone: [phone]

Answer 9

you've got to be A LOT of ching to be 20 and adopt and/or foster.  Agencies don't find 20 y/o to be stable financially or emotionally enough to adopt/foster.  LOL but you can have one naturally...not to get off the subject but if Adoption Agencies find that most 20 y/o to be too unstable to care for children then why doesn't the someone put an age regulation on pregnancies period.  

NEway, most of the children you would be adopting/fostering are coming from mother's and father's of your age bracket that don't have the financial and/or emotional means to care for a child.  What makes you 2 so sure you can handle the responsiblity at this early stage of you life to care for another human being.  I know that 100 years ago women were being married at the age of 14-16 and having kids that young and raising them, but back then society was different and those 14-16 year girls and boys were emotional stable to raise children b/c they were taught at a very young age to be responsible.  In today's society were everything is disposable including human lives children aren't taught to be responsible until very late in the growth process.  In fact, we start this process during and in our 20's when we're out on our own having to pay bills, rent/mortgages etc.  

My suggestion is....spend the money you would on adopting and go to college.  Get a good education so you can get a good job and by the time you're 30 you and husband will be financially stable enough to adopt and raise a child.

Answer 10

You need to take the time to grieve your loss.  I understand you feel desperate, but you have to take the time to get your head around this.

As an adoption social worker, I would not approve you right now.  You are too desperate and you haven't taken the time to process this.  Also, in my opinion, 20 is too young to be having biological children...you said almost 20....no way sweetie.

You most likely have not been married all that long so marital stability would factor in, as well as family support which may be an issue as you are currently on a military base.

My advice is to wait awhile, maybe even go to school, get some experience...be a teenager and a 20 something for goodness sake!  In 5 years apply at an agency.

Also, at 20 I'd be getting 2nd, 3rd and 4th opinions......you are awfully young to throw in the towel.

Answer 11

We have been trying to conceive since I miscarried at age 19 and 20.  To be honest I think you need to wait till your a little older. I know that is NOT what you want to hear.

I am not sure at age 20 that a social worker would recommend adoption for you and your hubby.

You need to grieve the loss of the children you will never have together. When I miscarried  it was very difficult because I knew exactly what I was looking at....that in itself took me three years to come to terms with it. Adopted children do not replace the lose you feel and it is not fair to expect them.

Right now your flooded with emotions and can not even consider adoption.   www.resolve.com    This may help you.

It's not fair and it hurts like h**l!!!   Good Luck to you.

Answer 12

look around where you live. best of luck

Answer 13

Be prepared for some cruel-hearted attacking..

At WORST, you may have to wait a few more years before you're considered a good age to adopt.. Shouldn't be the end of the world..

P.S... she is NOT soliciting for a baby, she is asking about agencies and age limitations...