Would any men be willing to let their wives support them financially?

Question

Suppose you were married to, or were dating, a woman who outearned you considerably. Would you use this as an opportunity to stop working and let her pay for everything?

Answer 1

No, but I'd use it as an opportunity for me to start my own business without having to stress out about how much money I'd make...

Answer 2

Well,as a woman who will never open her wallet to pay for  a man's dinner on a romantic date ,I supported my husband for 3 years(,he does not want to work if it is not executive with high pay position ) until he get his SS, hubby is 20 yrs. my senior,I work 2 jobs to make ends meet, at that time  I don't drive he takes me to work and pick me up he does not want me to learn how to drive and we have two vehicles,he expect me to cook and do housechores,and 2 jobs, I don't mind it ,but when he nagged at me  all the time like>" I married a beautiful girl ,but what I have here now is fat old ugly woman"oh boy! did I snapped at him, I did not know that fire can come out of my mouth, a sweet country  Asian girl like me,I stick to him until he passed away 8 years ago now ,and I found out so many women calling him on the phone. Right now I am  not in a hurry to get involve with romantic relationship. I see myself on 2 women at work but what I advice them is to learned how to drive...

Answer 3

i hope they wouldnt. but when i get a better paying job i definetly want my hubby to take a long vacate from work. i was a house mom for a few years and want to return the favor. he's been working all his life, i thnk its time for hima break. if its ur hubby why not? even though non-working men are gross.......

Answer 4

The only way I would become a househusband is if there is a medical situation at home. Like if an older child had an accident that make him/her not be able to move. Since it takes some muscle to move a patient, so I would be better suited to take care of him/her.

Otherwise, no. Too much stigma related plus and too much risk she would lose respect. Since my nature is dominant, it would be like a small h**l.

Answer 5

Why applaud and man for doing something which you say you would never do yourself?

If there were no kids i would have to do something to fill my time but, yeah, why not? I wouldn't USE or see it as an opportuinity, but if that's the way it worked there's no harm as long as she isn't insane and viewing the situation as some kind of victory against the "patriarchy" but then I wouldn't be with someone who thinks like that in the first place.

Anyway, i was supported financially from age 15 to 19 by a woman who had a management position, didn't bother me then, wouldn't bother me now.

This question is very 1980s IMO.

Edit, as a few of the others have pointed out, there would be not respect given to a guy in this position. we don't have too many choices with how we can live in the real world.

The overwhealming majority of women would not be interested in a guy that did not earn more/stayed at home. i can see an older woman keeping a much younger guy for s*x and s*x only but the situation you have described just would not happen in a normal relationship.

Answer 6

No...

It's the 21st century....I expect both myself and my wife to work.  We have 1 year paid mat leave for both the husband and wife here, so I expect both of us to raise our kids too.

Answer 7

i did for 7 years while i took care of my daughter with epilepsy.

Answer 8

Personally? No, I would still continue to work. It is still important to think about YOUR future. That's her cash not yours and vise versa. But I also believe that specific couple in question should do what they feel comfortable with no matter what anyone thinks. If both the man and more importantly the female are OK with that then more power to them. But ladies who OK this behavior have no right to complain later when they one day realize they might be dating/married to a Federline!!!

Answer 9

I was in a situation similar to that for awhile.  It's not that she was making more, but she had a position that most people assumed she made all the money.  It sort of sucked.  Not only was I working full time with added part-time work, but I also ended up doing all the chores (making dinner, cleaning dishes, vacuuming, gardening), we had a basically sexless marriage, plus I got the added bonus of people making the odd quip about how she was the bread-winner and I was some sort of gigalo.  She took my money, got a place for herself, and was waiting for some sort of magical thing I was supposed to do myself to improve our relationship.

Needless to say we got divorced.

I always have things to do, whether it's officially work or not.  I simply don't get bored.  If someone wants to pay my expenses, it would depend on the situation.  I'm not quiting my job just to end up feeling like c**p.

Answer 10

It's called pimpin' and its the way I've always lived. You find a woman with a big heart, a supercharged libido, and a body like to die for and you put her out. I don't necessarily mean prostitution, but let's admit it, all jobs are a type of prostitution. She can work as a waitress for all I care, but she's gonna give me all her money. In exchange I take care of her, body mind and spirit.

She loves it, I love it; it's a win/win situation. Don't knock if you haven't tried it.

Answer 11

How much do you earn?

Answer 12

Wow, a chance to be a bum - it is a sweet dream, but where would you find a woman who would let a guy get away with that...

Answer 13

I wouldnt stop working. I would not be intimidated by the fact that she makes more than me, however I have my own ambitions and goals aside from money, I would continue to work in order to pursue those goals.

I would expect the exact same thing from my wife if the roles were reversed.

Answer 14

Only if we had a really good reason for it.

All my life I have been a responsible person, and always enjoyed earning whatever money I have.  But if someone were to come along of immense wealth, and offer me the chance to be a househusband, there had better be a good enough reason for it.  For example, if we have a common goal that requires one of us to remain at home, I would be willing under those circumstances to remain at home.

Otherwise no deal.  Besides, I enjoy and do not mind working for a living.

Answer 15

Assuming there are no children, and there is something I'm working on, such as a thesis, or a project, or something that would better both our lives in the long run, and if she OFFERED it unconditionally, with no emasculating comments, then yes, I would.

Answer 16

Yes.. And she could caddy for me on her days off...

Answer 17

Yes. And from those women who cannot earn much or contribute much in the partnership for life, people accept dowry.  A well earning women can get married without dowry or with only a token dowry (as a custom) even in the most conservative and rural societies.

Answer 18

My other half supported me a lot through education and now we both reap the benefits. We aren't petty enough to point at particular earnings and say:"mine/yours" like cave-dwellers. There is no jealousy. Everything we earn is for "us", our future.

Answer 19

No, her family/friends would convince her i'm a dead beat, she would kick me to the curb and then i would have to explain why i didn't work for the last (fill in the blank) and the employer would think i'm lazy

Answer 20

NO WAY.

Not because she is a woman or because I like to work. BUT because it gives her all the power and she will use it to take advantage. I don't like being "dependent" on others, because I don't like taking c**p from others.

When you are self-reliant, you don't have to put up with anyones c**p and if someone gets uppity on you... you can show them the door OR use the door.

I like having options and I don't want my dependence on a woman to turn me into some slave.

EDIT: "Anya" I don't have a problem with women supporting men. I'm just saying its NOT FOR ME. No relationship is all fun and games and over 50% of marriages don't work. Sure.. I can take half her stuff if it doesn't work, but I've never been the type of person who likes to sit around and wait for others to take care of me. I don't mind making LESS than her, but I'll be damned if she will be supporting me. No way. I like having my own money and my own safety net behind emergancy glass. I'm untouchable and thus.. completely FREE.

I'm Batman

Answer 21

I make plenty of money, so it was not necessary for my fiance to work, so I told him he didn't have to work if he didn't want to! SO! He stopped.. but got bored, so now he has a part time job.

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Mike T,

I never "had all the power" or "took advantage" of it. We sit down together every month to do bills. We make the shopping lists together. We share house hold responsibilities. He never had to ask permission to buy something. We both have an amount monthly that we have to spend on any thing we want. I would never treat him as a slave, or as lesser, and I never did when he wasn't working.  Just because he was not working, did not mean he was lesser. He has the option to do what ever he wants, so long as it fits into the budget that month.

Just because only one partner works, does not mean both are not still equals.

Answer 22

No.  I want to pay for my own things with my own money.  My self worth would be diminished.

Answer 23

yes... i had a girlfreind who out earned me. i still kept my job. it was a nice change of pace for a while.

Answer 24

no i would find a good job or try to improve myself in becoming better at what i do to help out with payments.......i would never take advantage of something especially if its my wife it wouldn't seem fair(well not to me)

Answer 25

I'm a house boyfriend at present.  My girlfriend works (though I have my own money saved that I spend too) and I'm domestic.  I cook, clean, buy groceries, take care of the cat.  Its a very liberating way to live.  I feel very domestic.

Answer 26

The problem is that when this occurs many women start to lose respect for their husband.  I've read studies where most relationships where men are stay at homes, and or make much less end in divorce.

Answer 27

Sure I'd let her take care of the major expenses if it didn't cramp our lifestyle but I'd still have to find something to do all day, so I'd probably have some type of income.

Answer 28

I wouldn't work a traditional job, but I wouldn't sit around and do nothing. I would probably go to  school until I earned my PHd. (send the bill to my sugar momma) and then I would write some books. I'd only let her pay for everything while I would be in school, so I could focus 100% on school. After I'd graduate, I'd stay at home and write.

Answer 29

Probably because I do not have the need to be supported by another person, including my wife, I don't have a problem being supported by her. She makes more than I do, and it has not stopped me from working.

Robert G has a valid point and it is a valid situation/nasty enigma we are stuck in. However, at the risk of being branded a conniving slick, I have to agree that I have brought my relationship to a point where their words will NOT/cannot override mine. It takes time, but it IS possible.

Edit : And why are some people going off on Mike T for his 'I'm just saying its NOT FOR ME' opinion? Doesn't he have the choice to do what he wants to do without being criticized? Jeez !

Answer 30

My husband would!  We've already discussed it.  If one of us ever secures employment that pays enough to support us at our current comfort level, the other one may quit working.

Answer 31

My son-in-law was a teacher and my daughter a rising star in the legal profession.  She far out-earned him. When they had a child he became a house-father and stayed at home with the child. To keep his mind alive with his work he became a home tutor. He says he prefers this to the rowdy school he left.

They are both happy and to my knowledge content.

Ingenuity can make almost anyhting work.