Would be worried if your daughter was dating a 16 yr old?

Question

Well, I'm currently 13 an I'm going out with a 16 yr old. My Mum is over worried about it I think :/ I don't understand though, I know loads of girls who have gone out with 16 yr old boys and their mother weren't worred; also they didn't have s*x btw. ¬¬ I trust my Boyfried not to do anything "mature" like that and I know he wouldn't.

But yeh, would you be worried if your 13 yr old was dating a 16 yr old and why?

Thanks!

Answer 1

Thats just what parents do they will worry. They usually worry more about girls anyway. I will probably be the same and so will you when you have a daughter. But this shouldnt affect your relationship. If you are both being resposible and are waiting on having s*x until your older thats really good and very mature. Try sitting your mum down and having a good talk with her because if she is worrying alot it will be because of the s*x thing!! If you show her that you both can be trusted and that she doesnt have anything to worry about she will eaze off... but dont brake that bond because she will loose her trust and it will be a waste of your hard work. Good Luck

Answer 2

I don't have any kids, but my parents didn't allow me to date until I was 16.  As much as I didn't like it then, I'm glad now that they set those rules.  I am 18 and I realize that girls your age are more easily influenced. No offense.  If I have kids I will have the same rule because I think it is a wise one.  I have a cousin who got pregnant when she was 13, now she's got a baby.  So, be careful!  A lot of guys' intentions aren't good when they're dating younger girls, no matter what they say.

Answer 3

a 3 year difference doesn't sound that bad... but when it comes to being a teenager, the age gap can be kind of a big thing.

when i was 13, i was in the 8th grade. a boy who was 16 would be in the 10th grade. it would seem odd that a sophmore boy would be interested in a junior high girl.

if i had a 13 year old daughter, i would be worried about his intentions.

Answer 4

hmmm, i think the biggest concern would be the s*x part of it, abuse, or the worry of him just using you to get something more,

you just need to let you fam. get to know him and let them learn to trust him. and your parents might think your growing up to fast.

but im just suggesting situations

to be honest i would be a little worried though, (if i was a mother)

Answer 5

in your young years it matters. once you get a little older no1 will care.

Answer 6

I wasn't allowed to date until I was 16 and at the time, I thought it sucked, but looking back im really glad my parents had this rule.

Not only did it probably keep me out of trouble or from doing things I shouldn't have been doing, but 13 is just too young to be interested and wasting time on boys in my opinion... I mean whats the point really? Think about it... you aren't going to be getting married anytime soon and boys are just dumb really until they are in college hah and even then they are stupid!  It was nice to not be able to date, because I spent time with my girl friends more and didn't have to stress over pleasing a BF.

When I was 16 and could date things just went downhill... I spent so much time with my bf that my friends got mad at me and I ended up losing my best friend.  Plus I was totally infatuated with him after a while and he had become the person I hung out with all the time.. so first off I ended up doing things I wish I didn't do to make him happy and then being totally crushed and alone when he dumped me later on.. because I had given up all my friends to be with him.

Anyways.. I personally don't think you should date anyone at your age just because I think you should just worry about being with your friends and not have the drama of a relationship that no offense... but is probably pointless anyways you know??  Thats how I feel from my experiences anyways..

Answer 7

most parents get worried because when your that young it seems to be a bigger age gap.

plus, most 16 year old guys are all into s*x and taking advantage of young girls so be careful.

your mum has the right to worry.

Answer 8

Well Mother's nature is loving and careing...and second thing is that there are only two people which are trustable.\

1. Your Mother.

2. Your Father.

You are nothing for me.....so when you are together...anything can happen..you are just 13....

teenagers always think about taking fast decissions

but most of them are wrong and you feel guilty when you commit a mistake.

try thinking with some cool mind and dont just say you are the only 1 thinking true.

that's it.

Answer 9

I would worry and as much as my daughter isn't going to like it, she is only going to be allowed on group dates until she is 15. I don't believe 13 yrs old should be having one on one dates at this age.

Just so you know, this will apply to all 3 of my boys too. No one on one dates until they are 15, too.

Old fashioned mother. They may not like it, but my rules.

Answer 10

ok, I'm 16 and I definitely think that you should listen to your mom on this one. he may say that he won't pressure you to have s*x but really later on he will. also,if your doing it just to brag to your friends that you have an older bf well your just stupid then. Last, don't you think it is weird for a 16 year old to be interested in a p*****n girl? just don't do it, it's not that great and if you do you'll probably be known in the guys locker room as 'the girl who puts out' by the time you turn 16.

Answer 11

Thats the thing about some parents, they always worry even when you have lots of friends who have done the same and been ok. It's a parents duty to protect you and some just worry too much, you should try and understand that. I know it's hard to understand, I'm 15 and my parents worry way too much, they all but chain me to them so I never go too far away from them! But she just wants to make sure your safe. I'm not a parent so I can't say if I would be worried though, sorry

Answer 12

yes i would worry about it i would not allow this because 16 year boys are after s*x

Answer 13

Its only a 3 year wedge it will get less important as you get older.