Would i be so wrong as to demand this from my new boyfriend?

Question

please help me and tell me which things(letters) are ok to demand and which ones i should take it easy on.

a. stop asking me to pay for things (even if it doesnt cost so much) your the man and you need to pay.

b. if i do want to pay you need to take the money and pay not have your girl paying

c. act like you want to be around me

d. show me more affection

e. talk to me, want to get to know me

f. if you cant wait for us to have s*x and respect that im not sure youre someone i want to give it up to yet then you can leave. (i mean we just met a couple weeks ago)

g. stop looking at other girls when you're around me

h. when i bring something up stop getting mad at me and address it so i feel better about whatever it is, show me you care enough to fix the problem

all these things i want to tell me new bf and if he cant do it then obviously hes just with me so he can have a chance at having s*x with me. at times hes seems to really like me and at other he doesnt, seems like hes more into having s*x with me. so i think if he cant do these things i need to leave him. please help

Answer 1

I agree with Jon G..

I think it's crazy to expect a man to pay for everything. Honey, if your taking care of yourself now, continue to do so and accept his contributions as a bonus.

The first date I went on with my boyfriend (18 months now), I paid for. I called HIM up and asked him to dinner. He fully expected to pay when the bill came, but I insisted I had it. I'm not one to be bound by the 'you owe me something now' mentality of some men/women. He loved the fact that I was bold...

Also, it sound as if you just recently started dating. Now, I'm no teenybopper, but until it's discussed.... you are not 'steady'. Maybe you are assuming too much out of the situation.

Before I started making demands off your list, I'd take some time to see exactly where this relationship is going. Maybe he is keeping his options open, but you won't know until you talk.

I think you know the answer... if he's not that into you, leave him.

Never settle...  

Answer 2

You can't demand anything from anyone! You can ask and that's about it...are you with him because you love him or just elevate your social status? When you love someone it becomes a  two way street of giving and when either of you have to demand something not only has communication broken down but you need to re-evaluate why you're with that person.Alot of what you mention seems to revolve around control.You want affection but then go on to say we only met a couple of weeks ago??? So which is it? I understand that affection doesn't equate to s*x but it would be helpful to start somewhere and before you begin have some rules.Also I would suggest you mature,a woman doesn't have to demand anything but can get everything.You might want to revamp your approach.Good luck  

Answer 3

seems way way way to harsh no offence bu the way you said them if you said that to me i would dump you its way to controling

Answer 4

A. Pay for your own ****. The guy should pay for only the first three dates. cause after that its a relationship meaning equal partnership. Pay your way or start switching off on dates.

B. I don't get what your getting at. you can't hand money to a cashier?

C-E same things. You don't have to yell at him for this. lead the way show it to him and maybe he will follow. if not then hes not into you.

F. IF hes not C, D, or E, ing you than it sounds like hes just trying to F you.

G. Yell at him. I don't even check out other girls when i am with my female friends whom I'm not dating.

H. Doesn't sound like he cares at all.