Would it be Selfish/Cruel to Go & leave your kids alone while you went away with Your friends on vacation?

Question

Would it sounds reasonable for a hard working,responsible,financially stable mother who dedicates herself to her kids 24/7 to once a year to leave her Kids with the Grandparents and go off for two weeks with your girlfriends to a Nice resort and just relax with massages,spas,facials,beach and just forget about everyone and everything?

Answer 1

If you really are what you said (a hard working,responsible,financially stable mother who dedicates herself to her kids 24/7) then yeahhh give yourself some time off.

You sound like you deserve it anyway  =)

Answer 2

do it,i did when i was in your shoes,two weeks of heaven,you deserve,but i wouldnt go and not stay in touch,thats very important.they need to know you love and miss them.

Answer 3

yes - one week is enough zero-kids R&R.  use the other one later in the year to take a vacation with the kids.  and your parents will be glad you didn't dump the kids on them for two whole weeks, too.

Answer 4

You are certainly deserving of a vacation iwth your friends.  The children will probably enjoy the time with their grandparents.  I don't know if I would go for 2 weeks though.  It depends on the ages of the children and the relationship with the grandparents.  Make sure you also have a vacation with them.  

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong with you taking some YOU time. To be able tobe a good parent you have to feel good about everything that is going on around you. I envy you, my children have to put up with me 24/7 with no vacation. I wish I could get away for a while, I might be in a better mood. Good luck and enjoy yourself!

Answer 6

its 100% necessary and deserved.

Have fun!

Answer 7

no...every mother would love to do something like that...taking care of children is very hard work...

as long as youre leaving the kids in capable hands (which being the grandparents you know they are), you give a phone number so they can contact you and sign a paper stating that if something happens to any of the children that the grandparents can get treatment through a hospital/doctor if they needed it...

have fun..

Answer 8

No it's not selfish, we all need a break from responsibility once in awhile.  Take your vacation and enjoy.

Answer 9

There's nothing selfish or cruel about that at all.  Everyone needs a break. I say enjoy yourself.  Have an extra massage by that s**y masseuse for me. ;)

My mother dropped me off for two weeks every summer with my grandmother.  I hated it at the time because I lived in the city and they lived in the country.  But we went fishing, collected berries, rode the hogs, picked up eggs from the chickens.  She passed but I cherish those memories and I appreciate my mother taking me down there.

Answer 10

It depends on the age of the children. It would not be a good idea to leave very small children longer than a couple of days. But, once they are five or six, a week would be fine. Just be sure you prepare them so they know what's going on and allow them to call and talk to you. Have a great time!

Answer 11

Not selfish or cruel.

Just think two weeks later they have a recharged and energised mum - and theyve had two weeks of bliss with the grandparents.

I would however aim to have a family holiday, even if it is just camping caravaning or similar.

Have fun.xx